Constant Conflict: is there hope? | Dr. John Gottman | Relationship Advice

Love and security are top priority

I don't know.....respect and acceptance? That's a tough question. Gotta find the answer.

Sometimes change comes from the outside. An encounter, an experience, a conversation... I call it G'ds Hand. Everything is possible, anytime ✨.

Compromise is the hardest thing to do because while you both win you also both lose in a sense if that's what you actually care about.
Being right, proving your actions were worth the effort, whatever it is, if that is really more important than the person you're with, than it's time to step back and question your relationship values.
If you're with someone because you're always right, that isn't really love. If being right means you turn into something besides your normal self, that also isn't love, that's manipulation.
We have strange ways of getting what we want or our way, at times it occurs without us even noticing us doing the things we do to make it happen for us. This does not mean that it goes unnoticed by others, nor should you negate the possibility of doing it when confronted about it. Just focus on your actions/reactions a bit more, don't just let the autopilot take over, it's not trained to be emotionally sensitive to it's actions/reactions.

Is their hope?.... This snippet reflected none of its title.

Coercive Control & Power and Control Wheel dynamic are gitting in the way of this going from gridlock to dialogue. I hope this information helps 😃

Interesting perspective

"Open up the fist (gridlock) and let something beautiful happen inside." Good one.

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He's an idiot. People are not shallow as Gottman thinks they are.

So how to resolve?

Meh.

Be veryvery wise when yielding.
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