How To Find THE PERFECT RELATIONSHIP | Esther Perel & Lewis Howes

I found this information very helpful thank you

So good explanations ..she is genuime woman.❤❤❤

Wow this one is gooooold

Lewis you’re a John Hamel lookalike.

Many couples look having a terrific life together but, in fact , it's HELL. We never know .

I don't know...for my part I feel that a lot of my personal issues actually are about cleaning up the mess off my family history. Violence, alcoholism and insanity. I quote a wonderfull woman i dated a couple of times, "It ends here with me!". Aren't there others here that feel the same way? That the past is not the well structured, good, shining kingdom of heaven🤔

Milion dollar question. INDEED

It is just American society.

one of the best aspects of the video is he taking notes so brav of the important points. such a good boy!

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1Calibrating expectations .2 Diversification.3 doing new Things with your partner

Identity economy; the flaws of selfcare first; calibrication- diversification- doing new things; creative couples; life story not love story

Wow what a woman

Wow that life or love story you’re looking for- ❤

It is when I compare. I see my friends having great girlfriends easily falling in and out of relationships. The envy is too much to hold inside the body.

Wow. I was just introduced to this woman on watching a morning show today that I don’t usually watch. Wow!Wow!Wow!
Great advice.
Really enjoying her videos.

She is amazing! I’m sad to see she has done some strange stuff to her face and eyebrows

Thats why i stay single.Relationships are a waste of time
have a car instead.

Brilliant discussion, thank you.

She have a brilliant mindset, thanks for this video

She described our parents generation versus ours very accurately. But i don’t believe the previous generation were more happy than us. I saw my parents fight so often and my mother felt so depressed that I wished she had quit my father. They are now 72 and 74 and still together. I never see my parents really had a connection but they learn to live together because they think it’s their duty to keep the family together. Our generation are more foregiving for ourselves and we believe we are worth to have happiness.

Omg, she’s is incredible! 💯

Love yourself, start within and love outside of you will come.... doesn't matter if that is a romantic relationship or not....live in the flow of life, and things will happen naturally....no need to force or pursue anything

great listener and interviewer 👏

She sees the matrix

I'd Love to have chat with you Lewis

This is soooo helpful and important

esther is a sage! and just an incredible speaker and teacher. always love to hear her speak!!

Great interview! A lot to mull over! The part that spoke to me was that one cannot fix themselves and then go have a great relationship--one evolves and changes and grows IN the relationship! I have felt condemnation for years for going into marriage without "fixing" myself first. It turns out that I have been doing things right, the only way I knew how, really... It feels good to know that I'm on the right track. Thank you, Lewis! Thank you, Esther! Best regards from Ukraine!

Do I want a Love story or a Life story ?
How do I want to show in my relationships ?
Expectations - one individual versus a community.
goldmine.

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She’s married to a therapist 40 years

She is very wise!

But those "fixed" things ("back when") were only actually beneficial to the one who got to say and act on a genuine "yes" and "no" to what was happening; most people had to just "do" and "put up with," acting completely inauthentically because they didn't have the power and/or the access to resources to have an authentic say. Why is this not brought up? If you either blindly follow along unconsciously ("that's just what you did") and/or you silently follow along (to stay safe, survive, etc), you're a slave to someone else. And, yeah, you can stay together but if you're miserable, what's the point? What's wrong with having your own identity? Why must you give up your identity for another so they have have theirs? Or why can't you have an identity of your own while ALSO being in relationship? I don't think it's "either/or" at all and THAT's what we need to solve -- to NOT take things personally so that our own identity is not dependent upon our partner and what our partner does/doesn't do.

I cannot even count how many times I was nodding along in agreement with what she said..! I love her mind and how easily she articulates her observations and experience concerning human connection.

I think, to sum up, she is saying it's not what you get- it's what you give. That will create your best relationship.

Ask yourself, "Who do I want to be? Who have I been? How do I show up?" Not, "Who should the other person be?" -- like this nugget!!

There’s no PERFECT RELATIONSHIP. let’s establish that.

wonderful

she holds such deep wisdom it's remarkable..

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Perhaps younger generations finally feel comfortable asking difficult questions and charting their own path; not content to accept a relationship that is merely the cultural norm. This means love is harder to find, but more worthwhile when you do.

What a sheety idea: don’t wait for love into a perfect relationship 🤔

Yea i should just go on a pilgrimage meeting every woman and hope i dont starve to death on the way

Hello Lewis, Thank you for this interview to Esther Perel. Please I have two questions: 1. When she mention an article on her blog about her counter opinion on "taking care on yourself first" "You learn to love yourself in the context of your relationship with others", What is the name of the article?. 2. What book would you recoment for learning the frame of a healthy relationship 101? for someone with no reference from parents or previous relationship. Thanks

❤Thank you Esther and Lewis❤

I have so much love to give. Why can i be single for over 11 years?

Thank you 35 plus years relationship therapist ❤

If your "perfect girl" isn't around, no magic words will make her appear.