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The titles of your videos nail it as always
I blindly click on them cause they are all I want someone to tell me🥲❤️❤️

I'm in my thirties and have struggled with body image and binge eating since I was a teenager. I found your channel a few months ago and just want to let you know how much you've helped me! Your story and scenarios were always spot on with how I had been feeling. And now I've started to get to the root of what I really want and am learning to love myself through it. I can't thank you enough ❤️

This makes so much sense

This video made me cry...but in a good way, if that makes sense.
So much fear inside of me and I didn't want to see it. And still can't understand it. Very confusing and kind of sad but now there's room for growth ❤

This is huge! I noticed this feeling, almost a compulsion, to look a certain way. I thought about it one day, and in reality, something in my subconscious believed "If I just looked like X, I could have Y". This strange fantasy that if I was more attractive, I'd instantly have more success. But in reality, the type of success I'm looking for has nothing to do with being some ridiculously stunning creature with a "perfect" body. I also think it feels like insurance against rejection.

Safety! Being a lower weight makes me feel safe and protected from others’ opinions of me, and the permission to (attempt!) to be confident and happy. I feel like I don’t want to give another reason to put people off me… thanks for this video, literally the highlight of my day/week when you upload! X

As an athlete, it’s hard not to feel like my body is supposed to look a certain way if I’m truly successful or skilled at my sport. Something I’m constantly trying to remind myself is to focus on eating and training for performance and success in my sport, not the physical features and muscle definition that I think should come with it. Of late, it’s been great to see many women athletes show us that successful athleticism can take on so many different looks :)

Really powerful Rachael, as always.

If I dig right down into what I really want that “perfect” body for, it’s to appear totally in control, competent, put together and infallible so that I’m protected from criticism, hurt and generally seeming foolish or embarrassing myself. In short, perfect physique would mean I am the perfect version of me. Rationally, I know that a smaller body doesn’t really protect me from any of these things, and that there is no perfect me, but it’s taking quite a while for my mind to internalise that.

When I’ve lost weight in the past and people have asked how I’ve done it, I’ve really downplayed how much time and effort I’ve put into it and made it seem easy breezy and totally organic, like I barely put a thought into it (even though in reality the pursuit and maintenance of weight loss was consuming my life), so you can see there I was trying to play this part of competent and infallible person, and my smaller body was a physical representation of that.

I hope this made sense! I’ve been working on my relationship with food & body image for almost a year, your videos have been a huge help in that

Hey! Just wanted to let you know that I discovered some of your videos last year in January 2024. It’s been a rocky road, but I feel like I have FINALLY after a DECADE of struggles with my weight, restriction, binge eating and just feeling out of control around food…I finally found peace and healing with it. I was constantly striving in the wrong direction and approaching it from the same mindset of either wanting to lose weight and be healthy in a rigid controlled sense, or just not giving an F and eating everything I could without even considering it. My life has simplified, I don’t feel the urge to binge, I don’t overeat nearly as often and if I do I just move on. I can tell I have lost weight, but I’m not really fussed about that nor do I weight myself. What matters is how I feel and I feel great. I truly believe your video about you spending ten years trying to lose weight…shook me out of my trance. I haven’t gone back and I won’t ever go back to the yoyo dieting or just being controlled by food noise. Thank you!!!! ❤

I first came across a video of yours on how to stop binge eating when i was fed up with dieting, and just wanted to feel nornal around food. This was roughly two years ago. I just remember feeling excited and peaceful that i had stumbled upon the right thing, even though I still didn't know much about the subject 😍 I stopped weighing myself, or trying to reach a target weight, and it hasn't stopped me from living my life. On the contrary, its been more peaceful and enjoyable. When everyine around me is dieting, i feel so free, and wish that for them too. Thank you so much, and look forward to more x

Now the real problem is that two things can be true at the same time. A different body can sometimes bring different reactions in people which is what fuels the self-hate. Many of us have faced humiliation and bullying because of our bodies, and were taught, based on experiences, that we can't have X or Y because we live in a certain body. Yet at the same time, good people, would never demand this of us.Only abusive ones would judge others so harshly. Which makes the whole thing so much more complicated.