A CRUCIAL Step In Becoming a 'Normal Eater' (that doesn't emotionally eat or need to restrict)

This video makes totally sense, thank you! I am a very unhealthy eater, I know this. My mum has also a unhealthy relationship to food and of course she taught me this (because she did her best and want to safe me) Honestly, if I could, I wouldnt eat anything. Its fullfilled with shame everytime. I have to force myself to eat breakfast, I am often with low energy and low sugar but I feel ashamed to eat something again. And no, I am not thin, I have obesity, like my mum. Many people asume that I eat too much but this isnt the case.

This video has single-handedly saved me. I cannot thank you enough.

Very low on all of the questions.

i think mine had to do with being assertive, but i also liked being able to control what i ate. I also had low self esteem when i was 14 when i got orthorexia turned anorexia. I did start eating alot more food before that, especially unhealthy, so being able to eat healthy helped me feel better. I mean, i eat mostly healthy now, but i till struggle with body image and food tbh, i also plan to be healthier with the food i eat. I did also struggle with being assertive and never asked crushes out, ever, too shy.

Questions to pond over what food means to us: do you have these fundamental needs?
1. fun/joy in life
2. Confident and ability to communicate and exprese our feelings and being assertive
3. feel heard and understood
4. get adequate rest
5. Sensual pleasure : bath massage sunset smell long shower
6. Acceptance and a sense of belonging
7. Intellectually and creatively stimulated
8. Emotional warmth
9. Feeling cared for and loved
10. Sense of self
11. Sense of achievement: goals drive a sense of purpose

This has been incredibly, incredibly helpful! Thank you so much. I literally just took notes on what you said to refer to it later. Thank you!

thankyou so true when out with husband dont binge but when bymyself i do the binging statrted foyr years back and just cant get out it x

It dawned on me when I heard the associating going to the movies with also eating something. I had a mom who never did that, when we went to the movies we would rarely buy popcorn or other snacks and no soda. Maybe a water. Because to her the movie was the highlight and gave joy. My dad wanted popcorn if we went with him to the movies, because that was the only time he ate popcorn. This made me see why I don’t mind doing things without pairing it with food/snacks. I’ll eat too while doing something, but it’s not a must and I won’t do it just for the sake of doing it. Some of my friend find this weird, that I will go hours without food or talking about food, but if I’m not hungry it’s like my brain has zero interest in food. I guess habits from home also plays a huge part in one’s eating.

For the first time in my entire life I feel seen and heard in my struggles with food. God bless you my friend

this is brilliant, thank you so much

As a refugee, I have the same experience. I moved all the time and food was the constant in my life, what brought me happiness.

This video was fantastic but also gave me a wake up call to myself after scoring nothing on all of it 😅

How can I tell the difference between an unhealthy relationship with food and being passionate about food? I love cooking and learning new recipes, trying new restaurants/cafes, but I can definitely relate to not having many things in life I enjoy that don't involve food, even if it is all healthy food. I also love going to the gym and trying to 'bulk' up currently,, but I often overeat in order to hit my calories and can't stop thinking about what my next meal/snack is going to be. I sort of brush it off as 'I love fitness and cooking', but this video made me realise it may actually be unhealthy...

BEST VIDEO EVER!! (from another lonely child who moved around constantly) hugs for us both!

You have no idea how helpful this was. Trying not to choke on tears.

I’m so happy that I found you today ❤

Very insightful. Thank you.

My relationship changed exactly for the same reason. I moved to a country as well

THANK YOU

Thank you

I want a bestie like you 🥺

This video was really helpful!Thank you, Rachael!

Oh boy, shouldn't have listened to this while trying to do some work! I'll definitely have to come back to it when I have more time to sit with it.

This was really helpful to change how I think about why I eat/restrict the way I do.

Wow you look like Nelly

7 I enjoy nature, music, and books
8 I feel confident but I also feel the pain of rejection when it is not taken well by the other party
2 I rarely feel like people truly connect with me
5 I know my sleep schedule sucks and I'm more of a night person but I do sleep a good amount specially when I have breaks like these. I also stress about a lot of things.
4 when I have time
0 I feel like a total outsider and the world keeps proving it to me
8 I feel like I get a decent amount of intellectual stimulation 3 on creativity, I definitely feel some blockages there
7 I do feel warmth
7 yes I feel loved but I also have some missing pieces
9 I have a sense of self and frequently express love and admiration for it
7 I feel a sense of purpose and it can get extremely intense but I also face hurdles, challenges and doubts

Thx for this lovely vedio

When i binge
I dont care about the taste
It doesn't bring me joy either
I just want to stuff myself until I suffer
Its like trashing myself

Its so hard to find satisfaction working 16 hours a day
With the stress of my family becoming homeless
When I have no one to talk to

Feeling so hopeless, I hope I can get through it on my own

I just want to say THANK YOU! I have suffered with Bulimia for 25 years and i am just starting to go through recovery trying to develop a good healthy eating pattern. I have a long way to go and i still need a lot of help, but having found your videos they are just absolutely ME so much so its scary! I hope i can get as well as you are thats an inspiration. But having been ill for 25 years i know no other way and im scared ill never be 100% well. You give me hope. Xx

I also feel environment plays a role, such as clutter, "organic" visuals like greenery, flowers, natural materials, sunlight (like your room in the background is very pleasing to the eye). You do not have to be wealthy to give you comfort in your environment. For me, it's hard to prepare healthy food in a messy kitchen. It's also easier to clean if I don't have so much stuff in the kitchen or everywhere. I'm not a minimalist, just trying to reduce to what I really need or enjoy seeing. Thank you for this video!

I did terribly on all 11.... 😒

Big part of my eating disorder, comes from growing up poor and not having money for food I wanted to try. So now I eat too much and everything because I still fear loosing that privilege to eat what I want in normal amounts.

i hope i get this under controll

I honestly don’t think normal eaters exist anymore

This is so important! Thank you so much for posting it! ❤

Did you ever make the video focused on happiness outside of food?

You are soo beautiful🎉❤

Rachel, I found your channel last night and I am amazed that it is finally like - OMG, I get it!!! Mine started with childhood neglect, loneliness, etc. I did not have the typical eating disorders, so I never realized it was mental, but it is!!!

You are speaking to my soul. I put on a lot of weight working 911. I would eat and think about my bad calls or bad shift.

🙏🏻

Thanks!

This video is great thank you ❤

Wow. This is beautiful, thank you so much for being so vulnerable and honest. I actually got emotional and so many points you have mentioned that stroke a cord.. you made me realised a lot. I feel that I need to give myself more compassion and understanding rather than being harsh. Thank you

i can score every single question between 0-2 but i dont really have an eating disorder bc to me personally food never helped me or made me happy. the only time my eating isnt normal is when my depression hits hard but its less about wanting to restrict food and more about the fact that i do not have energy to make myself enough food during that time. but i can see why people who also struggle with mental health can get an eating disorder or get obsessed with food, if they feel like they have nothing else in their life to live for. people who struggle with mental health also can easily get addictions, may it be gambling or buying stuff you do not need just for the temporary happiness - i speak from experience.

hi! is there any chance you have any suggestions for therapy? i have been really struggling to find a good therapist

grateful 🙏❤

YES to all 10 ❤

Thanks!

And what to do if I scale 0 on every of this questions?

Thank you!