Mandisa: When You're Struggling with Depression | Better Together TV

OOOH im wondering if that pastor understand mental health.

Praise God so awesome to see Jamie Grace. All of these ladies with musical gifts. Thank you. 😊

This was hard to watch...Mandisa was not being heard and was not allowed to share the truth of her experience in its fullness. Her pastor nor the host could tolerate hearing a Black woman's legitimate mental health struggle and unfortunately that's what happens many times with Black women. We are not "allowed" to speak about our suffering. We are only allowed to smile, entertain, minister, and be "fine" because we are "strong." Anything else is uncomfortable for "others" so they must be stopped. Hence, the pastor interrupting Mandisa in the middle of her sharing. In addition, the spiritualization of the remedy for Mandisa and Jamie's mental health disorders was quite jarring. The producers needed to have had a mental health professional to brief both the host and the panelists on the sensitivity of this issue for the Christian community so that they would not demonstrate the very thing women become exasperated about when trying to convey the depth of their struggle with other Christians. The women on this show needed to "fix it." This show was disappointing on several levels. I'd be interested to know how Jamie and Mandisa truly felt after the show.

I am so proud of Mandisa.

To whoever is reading this, Jesus Loves You!❤️✝️

Wow, you’ve read my mail. Thank you for your transparency❤️❤️❤️

Depression is like seating on a nail. People give you pills, advise, prayers, etc... but no one wants to see the nail and help you to move.

They clearly need to be more conversation about dépression, I felt for her as well. It can even be hard to get up and take a shower. This is a depressed person's worst nightmare, telling them to just snap out of it, get up and get on... clearly they dont understand real clinical depression. We need more honest and serious conversation in the church, these reaction can sound like judgement.

I have a suggestion: eat produce whether you eat a salad a day or especially a “green” juice/smoothie! Our “gut health” is truly important! Even when you can’t, get back up and do this when you can! You need to be intentional about this just as we are about brushing our teeth every day! I did/do this for myself and my husband! I’ve been there myself sooo many times and I know “what” I used to eat compared to now and I feel a great difference! I pray and hope this helps someone! May the LORD continue to Bless you Mandisa (btw, I love and appreciate your awesome, fun and high energy music!) and the ladies on this awesome video! 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏

As someone who deals with depression, this was rather discouraging. It isn’t as simple as just getting up and doing. There are days that I physically hurt trying to do simple tasks.

Wow! I needed to hear this. I’m gonna get up even when I don’t want to . Amen!

I love you Mandisa! Thank you for being brave and sharing this ❤️

Sadness and depression are NOT the same. I need the entire body of believers to really understand how they can help their brothers and sisters in Christ

You're praise is your break through, even at home. Sometimes GOD wants us to be alone and praise and thank him, even when you don't feel like it. GOD wants us to have relationship with him, you don't have to be at church to get that, it's actually all about your personal relationship with GOD so if that means you can't get up to go to church that's fine church is for you can be surrounded around people that love Christ and can counsel you. But the best counsel is from The Holy Spirit yes sometimes he use people, but that can be from a sermon online. Most of all just listen to what he wants you to do and not what others think you should do, because only GOD knows how to lead you the correct way based off where you are mentally today. Just praise him at home even when it hurt, because GOD is showing you he is your answer and to come closer to him in your personal relationship with him. Worship GOD even with tears coming down your face, and even when it hurt. You're break through is your worship/praise GOD will lift you out of that dark pit. That's what GOD told me to do and I was not into really worshipping with my hands up and stuff. And he healed me and made me 10x better then what even ever was and our relationship is so amazing he gives me all my answers for any problems in my life he has been my counselor and he will put the right people in your life at the right Moment to tell you exactly what you need to hear. Seek GOD diligently first and the rest will follow. The Holy Spirit will lead you.

This is why I absolutely cannot live without my better together sisters ... I've struggled with depression for the better part of 37 years and I can relate with this on such a deep level and it moves me to my core knowing that God has used these women to pull me out of my "pit" and closer to Him! This show has changed my life in so many positive ways and the best part is they have taught me how to trust and truly lean on Jesus no matter what I face good or bad in this season! ❤ Thank you Better Together for always being the Christain role models that I need on a daily basis to live the life that Jesus died for each one of us to have! All glory be to the Father God!!!!

I didn't like how Natalie interrupted Mandisa. And she wasn't allowed to fully share her experience because everybody else just continued chipping in.
I also feel we are belittled more by other Christians when we share about our depression journey😢💔

The writer of the hymn "What a friend we have in Jesus" suffered with severe depression to the point that his death was a suspected suicide. People can have amazing gifts but still suffer excruciating difficulties with their mental health. Rick Warren, the author of international bestseller "the Purpose Driven Life", his son despite having personal faith in Christ committed suicide at a young age, and his family had long expected it. It's better to gather people with direct experience either in the treatment or experience of an issue such as depression who are also people of faith, than kinda casually, even lovingly 'wine mom' it out in this way. I also think Mandisa whilst sharing, it's better to explain the full regimen being used to manage the condition i.e. meds, therapy etc or if she isn't doing that, why not. Because there's a lot of gaps in what should be quite a disciplined discussion.

It gets hard when you are waiting on the promise/promises of God. It gets challenging when you have been burdened down with things that are negative from the past or whatever the case may be. At times, you have to be alone, to yourself, and with God. It is very much needed. It is very important to feel, sit in, and process the sadness and depression and anxiety tends to go along with that. Especially if you have issues with letting go of control and unforgiveness, health issues, felt an ultimate betrayal, or whatever the case may be. One should never feel shame or embarrassment because they have suffered from depression and even suicidal thoughts/feelings. Because we need to discuss these things openly, honestly, and freely. Even those of us in the body of Christ and we don't need people suggesting that we are not saved because we feel that way. I pray you all's strength in the Lord in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ of NAZARETH. The name above ALL names. AMEN. I pray that everyone's joy in the Lord increases in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ of NAZARETH. The name above ALL names. AMEN. Feel free to express yourself openly and honestly and learn to be there to just listen and let that person release if you are on the opposite end of that.

I'm glad that she was willing to share this openly. Because this will be a blessing to many and to her as well.

This is so hard to listen to knowing that she was found dead in her home yesterday. 😢💔 at the time of my comment they do not know her cause of death.. I'm praying her depression didn't overcome her. 😢💔 she was such a sweet person. Praying for her friends and family.

Really sad to hear she passed away. And so young. She seems like a really good and likeable person. RIP

Rest in eternal peace Mandisa🙏

RIP

RIP Beautiful Mandisa 😭🙏🏻😭

💔💔 This was a cry for help. 💔

This is why women are not called to be pastors. Depression is a spirit, the spirit of heaviness. Wish this woman would have been surrounded by believers who would have prayed with her to be free and not just tell her to have the will to get up.

Depression is an evil spirit. If you open the door to it it will come in and destroy you. Submit yourselves to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

We don't know what led to the cardiac arrest. Thank you Jesus for this beautiful woman who uplifted so many.

Mandisa was being very candid about her depression. Unfortunately, she is no longer here. Pray for each other and let’s not judge

There are times when you just nod your head and accept what is being said but there are also times when you know that person does not understand what you go through with depression. I hope this will open up more discussion on this topic on this show.

depression is pent up anger fear bitterness and resentment the way to overcome these is casting your burdens to Jesus forgive the people who wronged you and willfully let go of the pain

"Your obedience will write something over your life". 🙏🏽

Still looking across the street for you Mandi telling myself it’s not true she will come out 💔💔💔💔💔

She had a hard life. She was raped, struggled with her body image, lost close friends, was never married and never able to have a child. Even in this interview, she told the other singer “you used to be my single friend and now you’re married.” She felt alone.

They were no help to her. I’m not saying they didn’t try to be encouraging but they just presented her with kind, encouraging words and religious jargon. She was left feeling alone and you can see that so easily. She barely even got all of her feelings out without being interrupted.

I can identify with her being depressed since being violated as a child.
I was molested at age 6, then kidnapped for sx traffic king for 14 months as a teenager, and at age 28 an ex-boyfriend became a stalker, and then found me after 8 weeks. After he attacked me and was about to leave, he said, "Have you gained 2 or 3 pounds, because you look hideous!"
I went from 120 to 123, and I felt hideous, so I gave Satan a foothold that day! I quit body building, and every time I felt fearful when I guy would look at me or make a comment, I would Bing Eat as much food as possible. After gaining about 100 pounds, I wanted to take my life back, but every diet was a failure, so I kept gaining the weight back and more. I always felt ashamed of my body, so now, I'm almost 57, and I've never been married.
I was suicidal from at age 6-50 and lived as a hypocrite, but I thought I was saved, because I went to church 2x week and I volunteering in ministry 3x week and attended 2 Bible studies. Id have moments of victory, only to come crashing down within a few week, all in silence with no one to truly confide in. So after counless doctors, medication, counseling, 12 steps groups, accountability partners didn't work, I almost drove head on with an 18 wheeler. I knew I was a foolish virgin heading for hell. I made a list of 167 sins that I was guilty of! So clearly I did not ❤ God with ALL of my Heart. I loved my sin.
I had never once read my Bible in 50 years; but I did hundreds of Bible studying, but that only allowed me to cherry pick verses and read them out of context!
I found out that it only takes DAY to Listen to the NT Bible, so THE TRUTH set me free from the watered down gospel. I always wondered why Pastors/Wolves could never explain why Jesus told the auldulterous woman to go and sin NO more..Not less! Well, I know that it is Possible, once you ❤ God with ALL of your heart, mind, soul, and strength, you obey everything He says! Paul Commanded us to take EVERY Thought Captive and Make It Obedient to Christ. So it only takes 10 seconds to stop and ask myself: "Will this thought, word, deed glorify God or Satan?" It's Always obvious! It's been amazing to wake up everyday with no regrets. The WORD has been so life transforming, that I've read my Bible cover to cover every single month, for 6 years straight. ALL scripture is God breathed, so why do most Pastors/Wolves avoid the OT=80% Once I read it and dug deep into it, the NT suddenly looks like a puzzle that's missing 1/2 it's pieces!
I think that's why Jesus said Many will say to Me, Lord, Lord, didn't I ___, ___, and ___!
For 6.5 years ago, I never had another suicidal thought, or struggled with lust, lying, anger, guilt, shame, fear, insecurity, depression, doubts, unforgiveness, complaining, etc 🎉
I just recently looked through my list of 167 former sins, and I am only struggle with 2 right now: Loneliness and Uncertainty. I've move to 5 states in the last 2 years, bec I can't find a church that's not filled with lukewarm believers. I have not had fellowship for 498 days..., so I don't know which state to move to. I don't regret my time in isolation, bec it's allowed me to grow deeper in my faith with No one to distract me. I wish everyone knew THE TRUTH. 😢

Mandisa trusted Jesus with her depression. She helped others with their struggling depression too. God used her in her singing to bless a lot of people. Mandisa was a very beautiful soul inside and out. She will be greatly missed. See you soon sweet sister.

They have not released the cause of mandisa death.

Jesus is all we need to get through this life. Trust Jesus he will bring you through everything in your life.

Rest in peace Mandisa 😢🕊️

Something was haunting her. Music dark industry who knows. A lesson for us who are living. God is always the one to take care of us until the end

This is tough to watch now.❤ We sometimes try to fix a person without listening. I pray that we work to be present with people more and not try to overshadow unintentionally a person's moment of transparency through sharing what we think is best. We've got to do better. 🙏🏾💔

Please tell me she didn’t die by suicide

Beautiful black women. 😢

In this interview I feel like she wasn’t given the opportunity to fully share. She was cut off a few times, it obvious that she was in pain and it might have been therapeutic for her to be allowed to be transparent. But, now she’s with Jesus her healer. Praise God🙌🏼❤️🕊

I would have told her when she feels that way go ahead and stay home and rest and worship her savior there where she was at because WE ARE THE CHURCH. So since she was exhausted and had just came back from ministering the good Lord would see that her body needs rest and he did say he came for us to live life abundantly and that includes rest because he showed us that we do need to rest when he himself did it as an example on the 7th day🥰

There are no pat answers for depression

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