Breaking Up with a Narcissist

Survivor of both these traumas. Leaving the narcissist and the flying monkeys while graduating college 💪

People, even after the break up, paperwork completed & all things are squared away. Don’t you dare think the storm is over with these POS. They hate you for leaving them (THE NERVE OF YOU WANTING TO BE HAPPY) & will do & say things & behave immaturely/psychotically to make your life a living hell until their last breath. Misery loves company.

They don't hoover if you tell em

I have cancer & I'm just now packing to leave my narcissistic husband of 30 years. I believe because I'm no use to him ( can't be a work mule)he's become VERY verbally abusive. I'm really scared but I am so depressed I can't function & I just want to be happy for the rest of my life.

I am a victim!

The narcissistic people who need the victim fuel to feed their body because they do not have enough energy, that is why narcissists is mersible in their life and empty, they starts playing game around the good people turn into messy because of that. They do not know how to love, caring and understanding. Their brain is small is very different than human brain!!! That is how their brain is wired around, they cannot understand what is love!!! 😮😮😮😮😮

I'm going through this

After 2 years of trying to take care of his "fragile" selfimage, yesterday when we got into the same cycle of attacking me with his shitty speech and degrading words. I said to him, this is where my boundaries are and i really cant take this anymore. Mostly he didn't accept it and told me to hug him and stop being so stupid with each other. Then when he finally accepted it, he forced me out of the flat, got my laptop and my passport packed. He took the keys and now im on his terms to get my stuff back and my 2 precious cats.
It's hard because i know what is right for me, i just hate leaving a wounded and hurt child behind, who trusted me that we will build our future together and now i tricked him and lied to him about how seriously i was commiting myself to our plans.
But i guess if he loves, he wouldnt have done this on the first place. We humans are sooooooo messed up 🙏

Lesson learned ✌🏻

It's very sad for me listening to this ... I've been vacuumed back into this 1 sided abusive non benifical isolated "situation" so many times and the love bombing gets me every time... And NOTHING ever change!!!

Left narcissist 3 days back after resiging from my job with some savings, he called my colleagues, friends and went to my home where he bad mouth about me.However few people believed him and i really dont care what others think now, all i care is now that im safe however still have fear of what if he stalks.. though strengthening myself for my better life..

I'm scared. And it hurts so bad. I don't understand why he is so good and nice to other people.

I want to cause him some of the hurt he has done to me. Or would love to get outta this with him n move on with a better person. But i want it to hurt him

Yes, they DO change for someone else ... temporarily ... just as they did to bring us into their realm. But they go back to their narcissistic behavior ... just as they did to us.

It's like having a divorce with a demon!

Sounds like what the democrats do to Trump.

We went to three different couples therapists.. One was highly inappropriate and triggering (also avoided the reason we were there to tell me my mom doesn't love me.) second therapist became scared of him and then refused us after he caught a misdemeanor DV charge... And he was privately texting and emailing the third therapist (very heavy in flattery and flirting).

I refuse to go back to therapy and tell him why... And he straight up says none of this happened... Like that he still did it all but it wasn't malicious it was incompetence (his words he didn't know better..)

I guess that's why I haven't taken that first step in leaving my 11 year nark relationship, it's walking on thin ice while carrying our 4 year old. It's knowing that he's like a ticking time bomb. But, I Praise the Lord we are not married.

Ok I am a serial narcist…how do I deal with it?

2nd time around...I have nerves of steel...fully emancipated...successfully holding "no contact" tactics. Ha! Bye bye narcy!!

Some people just say fuck it don’t meat at mental hospital

“They’re not gonna changed “

Remember that people!

The words I needed to hear! I put in so much work, to think of another woman reaping the benefits. Maybe he will love her more, enough to want to be right.

Of course this is a common fear and of course, unfounded entirely. He loved you the most, remember, and it wasn’t enough, because he never needed to change; I did. And she will, too, one way or another. As for me, I’m choosing to be me.

Is that dog fucking dead?

Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.

Like Tina Turner I left all the property we did together and walked away. Only 2years apart and my life is getting better🤪

He told me it’s over one night during a drunken tantrum. The next morning he took it back as expected, but this time I just thanked him for making it easier. It’s finally over. I’m so glad we didn’t have kids.

Thank you for your videos they have healed me, console me, made me a stronger woman , I'm growing so much thank-you for your guidance

Went through a narcissistic relationship. Just felt how hell is.
Narcissist aren't normal.
You'll feel you are dealing with a devil. Thair heart is stone cold. Colder than mountains

That dog sleeping on the floor in this video is my spirit animal.. looks soooooo peaceful. Lolllll 😂😂😂😂 I forgot how that looked or felt like unfortunately I am still in a relationship with the narcissist 🙄🙄

Well congratulations you left one.
Wish i could do something about my condition.Unfortunately there is no cure😢From a narcissist to you angels...we are not in control..plz be kind.

They usually buy you all these gifts and do all these stuff for you to throw it all back in your face during a discussion or fight. They will try to make you feel bad about yourself

all facts

What upsets me the most is realizing it was a lie, all fake and he didn’t love me. Only wanted me to praise praise praise him

OH MY GOSH when you brought up the “fear that he/she will change and be better for the next person” my heart literally stopped for a second. My husband has said this repeatedly to me, stating that he keeps trying to make things work with me, how he has been this amazing provider, how any bad thing that happens (usually to me) is partly(or mostly) my fault, how he won’t beg me to be his wife and he will leave etc etc etc. but he kept mentioning to me after I got him arrested for assaulting me (dragged me around and pinned me down and beat me over the head giving me a concussion) that he is afraid I’ll just go and be amazing for the next guy. He keeps asking me if I have another guy waiting for me or if I’ve been talking to other men etc.
it’s crazy how the mind games get to you.

I had to tip toe out the back door with all my belongings because he put cameras in the house to watch what I was doing while he was at work! So I called a women’s abuse shelter to help me remove my things before he could make it home! A few weeks later I started seeing pictures of him and this new woman on facebook on date nights out on the town,yes it was upsetting to see but all my mind kept telling me is “It’s your turn sweetheart peace ✌🏽and goodluck 🫡✊🏽 to you sista” I’m DONE!

Tip- its hard leaving him fr cause u liked him as a person but u know it ain't gonna work in future if u want peace and a family, so don't fall and push urself to believe that he will change cause he aint gonna change n u know that.

The 1st time I've ever truly began questioning my sanity was being in a relationship with a narc. When we met she was in and out of sexual relationships while recently being married for a week, then her "week old" husband left for another woman. I genuinely felt sorry after hearing all the sorrows she claimed her husband had put her through and I also knew this was never the type of relationship I wanted. Unfortunately we eventually ended up in a relationship. I began losing everything one by one, cars ,savings, friends, family and my peace just to name a few. 2 years later she was still married to the guy and would constantly blame me for the reasons she didn't get a divorce 😂. It was truly the hardest fight I've ever had trying to leave after losing everything . I literally begged God to remove her from my life and eventually I did! They're the most toxic and evil human beings on the planet.

My oldest niece committed suicide two years ago because of breaking up with a narcissist! My whole world was rocked! I miss her every day. He supplied marijuana to his 14 year old daughter.? My niece turned him in and reported it! This guys ex wife is a police officer!! An investigation was conducted but he was found to be innocent. In the meantime she had split up with him and he spent months harassing her! Saying things like “why don’t you do everyone a favor & just go kill youtself!” 😅 She eventually followed through. He broke her down. She wrote a 7 page suicide note and recorded her own death on her phone! He’s walking free today and it makes no sense to me!!

Once I found out that my now ex-partner was a narcissist it was easy for me to leave. Once you realize that your partner doesnt really love you, that you're just a supply, a drug for them, that you really don't really mean shit to them it makes it very clear to you that you need to leave. So many times in past relationships I have gone back and forth with " should I actually leave this person or not" But with a narcissist you know the role that you play in their life. You know that it's not real, you know it's just a bunch of bullshit.

You are you right. They take and take until they make you feel empty

My husband is a narcissist and now hovering me back. But how can I completely leave a narcissist husband when his already old but doesn think and accept his old and still think like his younger.

Leaving a narcissist is the most terrifying thing I’ve ever done. I live 2 hours away from my family and friends. I moved in with the narcissist, ended up selling my furniture and things, because she already had everything we needed. So I literally had nothing. She wielded that power over me the entire time; constantly threatened to throw me out, went as far as trying to throw me out during times of conflict, threw all of my clothes out on the driveway. It was the worst feeling to have someone hold that over you. I literally had to make a plan to leave, made arrangements to stay with a friend, applied for an apartment early on, and when I told her I no longer wanted the relationship she did she do exactly what I knew she would do - throw me out. She destroyed what property I had left before I could come back and retrieve it, which I needed because I am starting completely from scratch. The she enlisted flying monkeys. I got ugly text messages from her daughter. Then she tried to smear campaign me to my mother. It’s a nightmare. These people are pure evil. She tried to destroy my life and my career. She didn’t. 💪🏼

It’s so hard to leave a narc when u love them but u just have to get it together and walk away from them because they will never change no matter what you think we are who we are but it’s levels to evilness

I’m Literally in that boat I need HELP PLEASE IM SO DONE WITH THIS WOMAN AND SHE KEEP TRYING TO Manipulate and save it when it’s done !!! I don’t understand can somebody please comment for advice

As much as this is knowledge.. why does she keep referring to the narcissistic as 'he".. not all are men.

Wow that was very well! I needed to hear that. It’s nice to be armed with professional knowledge and how to prepare yourself for challenges.

What happen if a narcistic person is in a relationship with another narcistic person😮