From People Pleaser to Boundary Boss with Terri Cole

"Boundaries are where I still love you while loving myself"

I love how she sung “ I LIKE BIG BOUNDARIES AND I CANNOT LIE! ( Stir Mix -A-lot remix)

Also plenty of men deal with these issues.

In Western society /The West , I've seen More relationships where The Woman is dominant


Plenty of male doormats and male over givers as well.

Thanks

great interview ! I am almost finished with the book Boundary Boss and I have written in it, underlined in it, just devoured this in-depth description of how I have lived my life in the past, why I did that, why it is familiar, why it is scary to try to stand up to being taken advantage of, all the things. Thank you for this great interview and I think I'll go looking for your podcast now

Where’s the line boundary and being rude?

I love this. 😍😍😍Thank you so very much. 🙏

I found you through Terri, new sub!!

Oh! That's the first time I hear someone else say that they need to leave events. I get overstimulated as well and need to leave, but that happened on my friend's birthday once. We were in like middle school maybe, and after I left she stopped talking to me, her mom called me a terrible person🤦‍♀️ that might have made me be afraid of leaving events early, but now I'll stand my ground:)

Thank you so much for everything, I'm 40 and realizing that this has been a huge issue for me and affected every single aspect of my life! I appreciate you putting this out there and offering such amazing advice on how to get healthy.

Wow. Just wow. Thank you 🙏

Brilliant ! It is always ‘refreshing’ to hear a communication like this 🙏❤️🙏

When you are in your joy and peace, there’s no need to create boundaries- everyone sees you in your truth and they don’t dare make you step aside for them.

Everyone wanting to be whole should quit alcohol. It’s poison.

So useful, I am learning so much! You both are very beautiful souls, I am very appreciative you came into my world ❣

It was incredible. I am buying the book thank you so much!

😊never had this problem I never do anything that doesn't please me😊. I always see and listen to my deep needs and desires when I find my pleasure in doing something for someone I do it and only then I do it❤🎉😊

I am so much like you , & i knew it was controlling and people pleasing towards my mom and elders and ridiculous.

This is very good.

betty’s gotta go lol 😂😂😂
loved the podcast; the way you ladies presented this message was beautiful; thank you 💕

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I never realised I RSVP most people a No to their invitation to fight. Hahahaha!!! Terri you killed it.

Thank you for being one of the few channels to disclose language ahead of time. ♥️ As a rideshare driver who plays these during the day it means a lot!

This content is astoundingly good. A book with akin material completely reshaped my views. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn

I get to the point of wanting to punch people in the face lol that's why I'm trying to learn how to set boundaries from the beginning

Pure gold, thanks 😊

Thank you both so much for this talk. My biggest take aways 1) the difference between compliance and compatibility and 2) not my circus or monkeys to fix❣️
Just subscribed to your channel and going to buy BB book now!!!!!💗

First video I've ever seen with "adult language" warning for kids around. Thank you

❤❤❤❤ amazing stuff

So inspiring 🙌

Terri, i relate to what you said about if your person isn't there to meet you at the train station on time you feel like crying. Yes, when that type of thing happens to me it triggers feelings of abandonment. I immediately think the person forgot to meet me, etc. Thanks for the video!

It drives me mad when people visit me and just wrap up in their phone...

I had to steo bwck from my daughter... I am still holding bqck evwn though its creasing me

This is so good thank you so much ❤

Great conversation. Definitely need to listen to this video for a second time maybe even a third time.

The best thing I've learned is to say what you want without waiting the person to tell you what you need to feel .
Thank you very much ❤❤

I got a lot out of this episode. Thanks

I like the "not my circus, not my monkeys" And the fact that, i don't have to participate in every argument. I just have to state my preference and my opinion. Yes.

I learnt this time to stablish my boundaries in a Loving way and finding my own style . Thank You for this Video.

What a great subject. Thank you for adding values to my life. 💝

I love her voice

Hi I loved this I will equal bounerdies and being truthful as the same and the right to have preferences in my hermitage especially women don’t have options just obey so it’s confusing thank you for helping me see boundaries as self preserving too and not be at the end Bitter

Abusive parents make their kids always obey them. The kids will grow up with poor boundary. It takes a lot of suffering for these people realize what the root of the problem. And it takes a lot of effort to break the pattern.

Loved this episode, thank you! I am definitely getting Terri’s book. 🫶🏻

Speaking authentically!!!! Yes!

Good interview but the hosts laughing was a bit fake when much of what Terri was saying was just sensible not hilarious.

That example of leaving a party! That’s me. I went to take my own car. I feel so validated after watching this!