SET THE MARRIAGE BED ON FIRE - Julia Okutepa

The saddest thing in life is how women just hate women. Can’t we have conversation like, “Husbands, please help around more, it increases the mood of the wife.” As such, the wife does lot have to all the running around. The wife is a bit relaxed not having to think about one million things. Gosh! Women, please don’t listen to this. Instead, decide with your spouse on what works for your marriage. Remind your spouse to assist you with the children, and don’t overwork yourself. If you do, you will still be blamed for not keeping the house clean or that your children are not well trained or worst yet, you did not babysit your man enough. Give women a break, please.

Please sir while we are here, can we talk about contraceptions and the toll it brings especially on this issue.

When strategising nd doing chores in the house, what does the man do at that time that he deserves been taken care of in the other room? All these things sef.

Truth be told: sex is not so natural for wives and more so when the kids start coming. When people say that the husbands should help out, I agree with you, but how about circumstances where husbands help out and go as far as hiring domestic servants but the wife still doesn’t feel like it.

For those feeling that the Female gender is being overburdened, you’re getting it twisted. Naturally, as you start having kids, the desire for sex as a woman starts dropping- you’ll start seeing it as a chore. And yeah, every teaching has its focus- we can’t teach Maths and Science at the same time because we’re trying to balance things. If you want to hear the balance, listen to other teachings by the speaker before getting wrongfully conclusive.

So, this kind of teaching is important to keep the love and bond going.

Thank you, Pst. Ocholi and Julia for always being real.

In Africa it seems as if the burden of marriage is mostly put on women