Toxic Positivity: Why 'Good Vibes Only' is Hurting You

I agree and it is also a form of survival mechanism grounded on nervous system depletion and dysfunction.

Omg i love this topic toxis positivity makes me so angry❤❤

You’re advice is really bad and toxic, you don’t know how it is beneficial to someone and how it’s not affecting them. What affects you is not the same as All. I hate your advice so much! Your advice is so toxic!!!

Please Talk HEAVY 💪🏿 Teal 👁️‼️

no its not bad, its you that is the bad one, you dont know the positive and good things in someone else's life, you don't know but only think you know.

I cut someone off whwn I was pregnant with my 2nd because I felt low (many people i went to school with were passing away) and was seeking emotional support, her response was "you need to hurry up and get this baby out of you, uts making you depressed" I've never been able to stand her since. Horrible girl.

Thank you❤

Oh, Gosh….this is so true….i wish more people could see that truth surrounding positivity. Thank you Teal ❤️🦋

Really good. As always. Thank you for your work 🙏🏼🩵

Why didn't you run for president instead of Kamala?

I have been watching a few videos today , one made me cry this morning because you actually validated everything iv been thinking so thankyou .
You speak sense and thankyou for your videos 👌

Does the pain metaphor work for physical pain too?

Thank you! Absolutely brilliant.

Thank you, Teal
"...this human society which is currently causing us so much distress that we feel the need to use to coping mechanisms to survive it." Thank you, Teal.
This is why toxic positivity and aspects of the "self-healing" movement feel lonely and gaslight-y to me. It perpetuates this idea that we can, and must, heal on our own, in spite of the world we live in. This world full of toxins, climate change, societal breakdown, poverty, war, species collapse etc. we are affected by these things individually as well as a collective.
Yes, the beauty, the wonder, but also the horrors.
"Rarely, if ever, are any of us healed in isolation. Healing is an act of communion.” — Bell Hooks

I dumped a « friend » during the eclipses because of this. Gaslighting is exactly the word that came to mind when it all went down. So done with these delulus. Thanks Teal.

Wow what an amazing video so very helpful thank you so much 💯

What made 1705 come up? The trials of the Templar? That’s religiously toxic, before duct tape chemicals were advanced.

Why we also had a massive breakdown, too in 2018 to 2019?

Thank you very much for this important information. I noticed myself that accepting my emotions by giving them full attention brings new energy. Behind my fear is energy , behind my anger is love . Positivity is super powerful but only by accepting all that is.

When I hear the term toxic positivity when I saw it in your title I thought of one individual... Joel Osteen he's a rotten individual but pretends to be you can just look in his eyes and see that he is a evil individual

I wish The Universe would show her True face! Check for the REPTILIAN eyes!!
I have seen them on here!!

“Pain tells us something about ourselves and our environment. It’s time to stop and assess.” Wow

Wow, I saw a couple of shorts and mistakenly got the impression that she was sane and rational.

She is the most intelligent and wise person on this planet😁☀️😄

Toxic positivity also is found in “raising your vibration” only, some gurus keep using this term from the law of attraction. Teal, thanks for the truth bombs, it s about time to expose false light new agers. Btw, I love your pendant 😅

Another way to look at the so-called toxic positivity is people are trying to un-manifest what they dont want to accept has already manifested. They don't know to face squarely what is and find acceptance which then liberates the resistance while simultaneously helping making conscious certain aspects of yourself that need healing...which if you heal makes you a more powerful conscious manifestor. Shadow work.

I can feel when a person is just throwing positivity minus heartfelt empathy at me when I am facing something. It doesn't make me feel good, but makes me feel shamed for being real and expressing myself. It makes me feel less than or weak rather than helped. Their response didn't help me get through my situation.

I had some friends (a family) who went through one of those "become a life coach" pyramid schemes. The further into their program they got, the less comfortable I felt talking with them about my problems. It seemed like they retreated into a rainbow bubble. In response to anything about my current struggles, they would say something about turning my focus to what I want and make myself feel like I already have it. Classic, really. They have kids age 7 and 9 who still sleep in their bed with them at night and they act like the kids need it but really it's like ... But what about your marriage? When's the last time you were intimate? 😬 One of the girls isn't far away from puberty. They are perfectly safe inside your home. They have each other. Do they really need to be in your bed with you every night or are you avoiding something? The dad is an attractive and successful Latino male who is away for work a lot. They hoard as well. Grandma lives with them and seems to be a scapegoat for a lot of things. I made my own cataclysmic mistake dating this guy for a short time- didn't vet him enough. Introduce him to this family because they needed help cleaning up after the hurricane and he needed work. Turns out he's extremely unstable and when I got myself out of that situation he began stalking and harassing me, and this family bought his sob story and let him move in with them because they want to "coach" him. Can you imagine if I was their client? Getting out of a bad relationship and they let the guy who was stalking and harassing me move in with them? ☠️ I've tried to talk to them and they basically just shut down and can't see how twisted the situation is. I'm seen as the problem because I'm bringing up something that isn't good-feeling. It's been a nightmare for me, but I'm starting to take comfort in the fact that those aren't good friends to have. I'm not bad for feeling bitter and resentful toward them. They completely broke my trust and made what was already a nightmare feel even worse. I'm starting to take the word "friend" more seriously these days. It takes a long time to trust people and I think that's okay and even realistic.

Teal I respect you so much but In a video of yours about "do prayers work", you explained the exact opposite...the importance of sheer focus and zero resistance... That is actually toxic positivity if it is something about manifesting a thing that is unrealistic.

can we make this required viewing please--she's good

🎯 "And by not feeling the pain, you are certainly not "all better." In fact, you will never take the necessary action steps in reality to actually Be Better.
Whenever you feel negative emotion, use the pain itself as a kind of meditation bell that is awakening you to the opportunity to gain valuable feedback.
It is trying to tell you something.
The question is: What?
If you engage in your coping mechanism to just get away from it, youll never know what it is trying to tell you. And because of this, youll never be able to take the right action for yourself, or for the people in yoir life."
🔔🔔🔔❤

Positivity instead of facing reality is an American pastime

Americans not gonna like this one 😂

Brilliant video Teal. One of my favourites so far. Thanks.

So much wisdom.

Nooo... it's called manifestation.

And this has been practiced for hundreds maybe more years. It's not a coping mechanism. 😶

Ok trauma is NOT passed down through genetics.😅

This is my mother

Well... My 1st stepmom Always said... Want In one hand and cry in the other and see which one fills up first. That's a very country saying right there. LOL I am in the south. We have a different way of looking at things. BTW...Your eyes are Stunning. Looking like two emeralds Shining bright. 😊

Thank you Teal This message is wonderful 🙏💜

Stop with the overly positive crap. We live in a world of duality clowns!

I will work on dealing with my negative emotions by becoming aware of them, instead of avoiding them. I ashamed for behaving in a toxic place disillusioned in thinking I was helping, and not actually truly listening to other peoples pain. I lost a lot of trust in myself, and working on gaining that trust in myself and building trust in relationships.

Whenever i see a “good vibes only” anything … and this goes way back … I think the first time i saw the phrase was the teens — the 20-teens … I get a stabbing pain in the core of my being. It’s a mixture of pain, shame, and dare I say rage!?!? Thanks for this video.

It’s like whenever I pass by someone or an entity elevating the good vibes only mantra … I simultaneously feel every bad vibe that individual or entity is deflecting onto those they deem “bad vibes” … 🤣