The Dumbest Dating Mistake Everyone Makes... (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

Let me see if I understand this correctly (I have Autism, so bear with me). If I am ruthless in my actions, it means I can be kind while still setting my standards of how I expect to be treated? Like not allowing somebody to waste my time without getting all bitchy about it? Any deeper explanation is greatly appreciated, I love Matthew’s videos

I love this. It's so clever. And it works.

He looks like the kinda guy who has dated so much he is questioning the meaning of life.
Kinda like a guy wanted to be rich and then he become rich and he is lost. Like Jim Carrey.

The videographer and editor are using every tool they have to avoid showing the man in the front row, center-right side.

I'm curious as to what he means by "ruthless in your actions"? Does he mean screwing a guy over but do it nicely?

Wow ❤❤❤

Wow

They ONLY listen to him because they are attracted to him.
An average or ugly man ALWAYS gets ignored.

These womens will forget everything that you said , cause thry are for you there, at this meetings. You are challenge fir them, they want to confirm they own feeligs, so they will think after your speech thatcwhat they think before😂. No change.

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Why is the stripper talking

Master level marketing hypocrisy and prostitution strategy class...Thanks Mathew...

Think it’s funny how many in audience are dressed to the Ts. They are pursuing him, the speaker, not seeking advice.

I had just sent this message and stumbled across this video. I would have said this was a mix of salty and sweet. Now I’m not sure. I’d love some input please.

To me it’s making him aware that I do not normally tolerate this behaviour, (salty), that I will block (action). I’m basically giving you a small window to put things right because I liked your vibe and thought your were decent. And I liked you (sweetness)

I’m not normally someone who reaches out after being ghosted because I find it disrespectful and quite boring. However I am just messaging to check everything is ok your end before making assumptions and blocking you? As you actually seemed like a decent person. I had a good vibe off you and I’m sure the feeling was mutual. X

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I am a middle aged autistic person who is coming to grips with his prognosis, and I am legitimately using your videos to learn how to interreact with people in general and women specifically. It is a huge help in discovering what my mistakes have been in previous interactions. Thank you for clear and concise direction.

There is also the aspect of being a decent human being, men don't respond well to bi*chy behaviour. Generally speaking, we need to take the view that there is 'no bad intent'. Using the example, if a guy does not message at the right time or does something that you dont like, then the likelyhood is that he did not realise and there was no intent to be bad or do it on purpose. It is better to be kind with tone and language and communicate it. More often than not if he thinks it's a reasonable request, then he will modify behavior. Contrary to popular belief, men are not mind readers.

I can see why women lap that message up.
because it sounds like you have power,and control.
But its no difference from a man NEXTING a girl that does not want him and is messing him around.
"ha , that girl would not come over or do xyz, so I nexted her!" - yes man, you really showed her. . .
Whereas what is really going on is that HE lacked the value to motivate HER to behave how he likes.
He behaved unattractive and got luke warm compliance.
What he should hve done was behaved more attractive to motivate her to enthuisatically want to meet him. And the same applies to women, when the man is not enthusiatic

this can only be funny for women,....for men it's everyday life with a woman. However,...I see that a couple of women also lacked a smile, because they realized how right the man was

It seems that "playing with your hair" is an effective body language message for guys, too.

Lots of hateful and toxic comments here 😢
If you are reading this, I hope you find love and happiness soon 😸

They wouldn't be laughing, agreeing, and generally swooning over this guy if he was 5'3, 180 lbs, and had a pugly face.

The male equivalent of this is to say nothing, and move on with confidence because a person is simply not useful to you any longer.

It is so funny how this guys talks using words like ‘bliss point’ and others, because he knows women need to be communicated with using emotional words, all soft, and like a school teacher.

He is even sitting in the room like a school teacher. And we know women always look up to a leader.

Well its a simple word, Tsundere

Women, as the messages showed, think they are too good to put in any effort in anything.
Any woman that has even the slightest idea in her head about being "ruthless" even in the slightest way, are not worth talking to for any reason.

Women get nasty quickly because most of them know they are NOT a good person at heart.

Being 'an iron fist in a velvet glove' always works best.

One Halloween I went to this bar. A man approached me and immediately introduced himself. I was instantly intrigued. Not because of his looks. But because he actually told me his name. Right away we started talking. About anything and everything. We both felt very relaxed. After we left that bar, we walked through the downtown area and then eventually went to another bar. After that we stopped for a bite to eat. Like a gentleman he paid for everything. Sadly, he had to go back to England a few days later. He had come there to visit his relatives. I knew it would not last and that nothing would come of it. But it was still an amazing date.

So men, what I’m telling you is, if you see a woman you’re interested in, just walk up to her and introduce yourself. Please don’t use some corny line. Act like a gentleman. Don’t treat it like a job interview. Just relax and have a great time.

I HATE the last sentence: you are the one in control

This is BAD advice Matthew 🤬😡 is this really the intention of this video? Gaining control?

It’s a relationship NOBODY CONTROLS ANYBODY 😡🤬😡🤬😡 neither the lady nor the gentlemen is a slave of the other person

we are equal partners

Sage advice whether you're a man or a woman gay or straight.😎Prodigious

Comment: Women want a man that looks like Gabriel Soto. He is an international Soap star. July 2024, USA

I’ve added this video to my favourites. Among other things, it is bank of anecdotal evidence of how a lot of women say they want “x” in a man, but instead pursue “y”, often have sex with “y”, then get angry with with their own choices and project that by blaming “y” for being ‘fuckbois’, and often also get defensive when anyone (usually “x”) asks them about it - as if I am the one in the wrong and being unreasonable or “insecure” by questioning such a person’s investment in me, when clearly their heart and mind are elsewhere. That is gaslighting.

FYI, “y”s never ask you about these things, because they don’t care to begin with. They don’t care about you, your past, or your future.

Matthew Hussey is just much nicer about how he talks about it than I am. I have a chip on my shoulder. It probably stems from some of my autistic traits, but I really don’t like being gaslighted, to such an extent that at some point I even started to enjoy ripping into such peoples’ defences. I may be socially awkward at times, but I was never stupid and these sorts of attempted mind tricks did not go unnoticed.

I’m happy to also say that I’ve made good friends in recent years, men and women alike, whose actions actually align with their words. Who say they want “x”, and actually pursue “x” instead of something else (there’s also much more to them). These people are priceless to me. But, people loose the things they take for granted, so I often like to remind myself of the sort of trash that floats on the surface of the so called ‘dating pool’.

true

Men doing 9 to 9 jobs 😢😢😢, they are abusing men.

He's a TW

Matthew is really a god sent to the current dating pool

Dumbest dating mistake men make: thinking women care about them.

Oh dear …watched this 3 days too late 😢

Only problem is, Chad does not care, he already ghosted you, and you are still single and miserable because your standards were too high from the very beginning. Date men at your level rather than chase after guys 3 levels above yours.