The Number 1 Abuse Tactic Narcissists Use Against A Target. #narcissism #narcissist #npd #cptsd

This is really sick stuff.

Are there 12 step groups for this?

Thankyou !!

and yet narcissists aren't the people who are in the way of a speeding train

My last partner was extremely mentally and physically abusing me when it was convenient for them. Then would suck me back in with gifts and apologies that I didn’t know how to except. They eventually left me after they violated my trust and privacy and physically assaulted me for no reason whatsoever and at point I had to go. They blamed me for their actions and said it was my fault and that I deserved it because I triggered them and I was lucky that they didn’t kill me. Once I left and got to safety, they then stalked my IG to make sure I wasn’t going to tell anyone about them. Blocked me and watched me from someone else’s page for anything I may say or do in the likes of them. After I found out and called them out for watching me, they then threatened to sue me for defamation of character and that no one would believe me and that we would never see each other again if I did tell anyone what they did. No one deserves to be bullied in a relationship with the person they love deeply. I’m disappointed in myself for not leaving sooner and not having the courage to speak up for myself when I had the chance as well as setting boundaries harder than I did. However I do realize I’m not to blame for their behavior and actions. I do still love them deeply and pray they find help and support and comfort for their pain and discourses that they have to persevere through.

yup. i was always told that it was abusive to tell them what they were doing was abusive. I didn't buy in to the alternative

How much do you get paid to lie

Not everybody is a robot

It's not same saying the pain from a negative relationship comes from an abusive response to abuser, than saying the abused's response was wrong.
Upon an abuser, the only appropriate response is run away, forget about abuser, silence, never give a chance to comeback.
'Those who love danger will perish on it' (Gospel)

ABSOLUTELY! He would do hateful, ugly things to me to make me mad, hurt, sad ON PURPOSE and THEN.....will explode with rage and/or abandon me because I react negatively to the pain...that he meant to do just to hurt me!!!! Sick & Insane then tells me I'm crazy.

“It’s a misunderstanding.”

It s comedy shows

Do all narcissists love bomb at first

My brother .. psycho

This is how I got kicked out
Don’t react because this is what they want
They want you to look like the abuser
Build your life up and f what your parents have to say if they are narc or anybody else

This is my 32 year old daughter to some degree... She's been living in my house for the past 13½ months with her longtime bf and their son, my 12 year old grandson. Moving out next Friday, thank God.

I wanted to help them save for a house but she has been 80% great and 20% gaslighter, horrible, disrespectful of the way I want things in my own house. I didn't charge them to live here but she has been horribly disrespectful and allowed my grandson to be so as well. He can be nice, but also just really evil and she allows him to disrespect me. I finally told them they had to move out. I've helped them enough.

But it's horrible, because it's never HER... It's always ME. Thank God I have my head on straight and have good friends who have known me for 30/40 years who will listen to me vent.

Wow. This hits home.

Freakin‘ true.

I introduced him to „non violent communication“. 6 months I swallowed and UnDeRsToOd his trauma-rooted invalidations/manipulations/gaslightings….
To the point where after my 4th breakup and his follow-up-sob-calls that made me feel guilty. Giving him, yet, another chance, because he really tries!!! 😒
For him to order the book, next day listen „empathetically“ to me for the first time, then being totally exhausted and scared that he „could not criticize me anymore in the future“. Oh, boohoo.
Me saying „I feel like you don’t appreciate all of! The effort I put in to find peaceful and positive solutions for over 6 months…
And here goes the wildest thing:
Only person on earth, reading about non-violent communication and getting more invalidation out.
„You make it my fault? You are not the victim. Everybody is responsible for their own emotions! Read it in your book.“
Wow. Just wow.
How can anyone feel like the most innocent child on earth and at the same time treat people that mean well with so much enmity…. I am so fed up with feeling guilty. This is just bullshit.

They have done nothing wrong

I might not always win but mfcker I I never loose! Lol!

please do not feed the narcs run away go no contact

Your Crock-Pot analogy is incredibly accurate, and horrifying. I see him, walking around, giving me the silent treatment, shunning and cunning.

I have never cheated. But he probably has. He refuses to admit fault. He cops to NADA. I just came through a days long narcissistic rage hell.

Its the holidays! Time to wreck the house.

Subbed Sir!

Please explain to me how my mother has gotten away with this my entire life?! She plays victim and gets people to believe her..HOW?!?😩

PTSD - from mother and a husband’s abuse

Classic gaslighting

Im just now coming to realization that I have been a victim of this abusive treatment for the past 9 months. My husband had me brainwashed to believe that I was the narcissistic monster, while he was doing this along. This is a true awakening for me!

Yes I know. And I've been through this for so long. I just finally freed myself from it. And I want to be able to be happy

100% I’ve been through it for years and never put it together til about a year ago.

Narcissist are masters of manipulation

This description is RIGHT ON! Explained perfectly!!! 🙏 thank you 🙏 it was so difficult to articulate this for so many years and she explains the confusion and grooming so easily and succinctly, what took me years to unravel and understand, I still couldn’t explain to anyone. ❤❤❤

My spouse actually said to me. That's why you need need to talk to someone and take some medication. They never do anything wrong. If they did anything it was because ..... made them do it.

All I can say is YES!

Yess mam this has happened to me for the last ten years. I knew I was being abused enough but he convinced everyone around us that it was me and made everyone think I was a monster. I was so isolated and destroyed. I’ve wanted to get away for so long and tried everything. The few opportunities I had when he had to leave town and I didn’t go with he poisoned me so I was too sick to even stand up let alone move out. Caught him on camera pouring it in my drink. He found a new gazelle to torture and I was so happy bc I thought it was finally my ticket out, I should have left without even putting on my shoes bc he met one of his kind and they planned it all out ahead of the day. They were nice to me and acted like they wanted to be friends and I played along as I packed my things and then they attacked me and called 911 and told them a story that I was a jealous ex and 🎉on a rampage. Got 3 felonies and $60k bond and they stole everything from me while I was ordered to stay away. Almost killed my dogs, the only joy I had in the world. I thank god I got them back it was a miracle, everything else though is gone, even my family photos from my grandparents on down they destroyed. When I got out of jail I got proof that they planned it all but they did such a good job playing victims that nobody has given me the time of day to look at it or listen to me, instead they charged me with stalking 😢 I didn’t realize how easy it was for people to abuse the system and get away with it like they have. Anyways, the positive side is that he is gone and I only have my days ahead of me that can never be as bad as they were when I was stuck in that nightmare. If anyone who ready this is in a relationship with one of these literal demons, get up and sneak out the back door when they ain’t looking and never look back, cut your losses while you still can. Don’t let them steal any more years from you and if you wait long enough they will steal your future from you when they go.

My mother punched me in the neck last week and two seconds later denied it. She completely denied it. I said wait a minute my neck is hurting you just punched me. She said no i didn't. I moved your face away.

There’s no hope. Especially for me. No one is going to help me

That started to happen with me with an ex gf of mine but..... all my friends are women and I've never been accused of abuse with any single one of them.. ever.... except her. So I said, whoa waaait a minute lol! No contact with her for almost 3 yesrs.

I like your glasses.

i tried to ingor him..this is when he started posioning me

They can’t stand when you aren’t working or busy. They will pretend to be doing something just trying to get you to not relax around them !! It’s insane

This is so sadly true, I have ended countless relationships friends and boyfriends due to lying and abuse and controlling issues on their side, I go by my gut instinct, if I see red flags, it stops there, you will never win an argument with narcissists and they know no bounds, no point in even wasting energy or time on these type, they will love the attention and power they few that they have over you

Bingo!

My mother😮

This is the epitome of my younger sister. She's not convincing me of one damn thing. Life is much more peaceful without her in it.

It took me years to figure this out. It is the most insidious of abuse. My advice to someone living with a narcissist: GET OUT, GET OUT, GET OUT!!!

How do I know whether I'm narcissist or he was narcsist.he is doing great with his new girl, when he showed no interest in me.or I was not fun like his new girl ,who parties with him all the time.

We all know one!! Stay far away from them. They’ll get that reaction out of us and eventually we can see what they’re doing.🙏💜

Nah. /