School of Life: A Bad YouTube Channel | Big Joel

You won't say the channel is conservative, but I will. The "lessons" seem VERY targeted towards people feeling lonely, offering them convenient pathologizing that "just so happens" to slot well into deeper incel theory. Then once Timmy NotLaid is hooked by hokry advice telling him that all his social struggles make him cool akshyually, the channel offers little tidbits like "modern art and subjective taste are why thing is bad." It's REALLY low level and softened, but as somebody who went through that pipeline in his teens I am definitely recognizing a hook baited with the usual bait

i recently learned they have an entire bookstore /shop after stumbling onto it on booktok . it really puts extra context to this vid and the problems presented with SOL

Maybe i misunderstood but at one point Big Joel says"It's not good or necessary or important to feel terrible at any point in your life ." What a nonsensical statement to make

I feel like Alain is just ace/aromantic and he thinks everyone else is, too. It’s fine if relationships aren’t your thing, but for most of us, they’re fun and rewarding.
Neither preference is wrong. If it doesn’t feel right to you, don’t do it, whether that’s one bad relationship or a general trend.

If they think that horrific insults are just "apart of love," they've never actually loved anyone. If you love someone then you won't maliciously verbally abuse them.

I think this content creator good points but his rudeness towards SOL irks me. It’s not okay.

The School of life has helped me a great deal. It may not be produced by professional therapists but I don't fucking care man, it helped me.

I agree 100%, all so negative posts, create problems you never knew existed. My comments deleted. Very insecure personnel. Critical thinking mandatory.

something really interesting to me about that first video is the fact that while "relationship aren't good because we're too used to being taken care of by our parents" is not a universal experience at all, it's something I've heard repeatedly from straight women complaining to/about their partner: "It's like he wants me to be his mom!"
So I guess there's truth to that, if "self help" channels are telling these men that's the reason why they're unhappy...

Didn’t grow up in a very huggy kissy household and I feel as though I never get tired of my relationships unless things get actually toxic , so maybe those in huggy kissy households with not as much conflict as I had , get tired in relationships , either way if these things aren’t PROVEN it shouldn’t be said with conviction

I have had a seething, persistent hatred for SOL for years. Thank you for making this video. I honestly just googled "school of life bad" to try and find anyone criticizing SOL's blatantly made up bullshit.
Very happy to discover you through this!

School of life 1000% helped me get through the darkest times in my life, what you get value from, others may not.

"You're always your best self with your friends."

My little sister almost ended up on the big Wal-Mart wall of missing kids/teens because of her friends. The only reason she didn't is because one of her would-be assailents had a stroke. This line is patently bullshit.

omfg the last video predicted the BlueSky bot problem

multiple times i looked at that mic and thought it was an overlaid example of an ugly building

Hair.
Puzzled. Explain.
But nice time. Thanks.

dude, you are a moralist. the video does not talk about something as bad entirely. it talks about a particular part of parties not being enough to met deep social needs. It does not mean parties are bad. Only you got that conclusion Lol

School of life advice on flirting is a great recipe for disastrous misunderstandings and creepy moments. Sounds like he made a lame video he made to try and legitimize the lame excuses he told his wife when confronted about improper behaviour around other women

Someone needs to tell School of Life that he's a miserable sack of shit who needs to stop negatively influencing peoples complex lives with his pedantic bullshit and go to ACTUAL THERAPY.

Also that unironically looks like an amazing party.

The danger of the love video is people feeling anxious or upset about their partners absense to their needs or feeling like something is wrong, so they click on the video only to feel silly and blame themselves. I felt horrendously anxious about my first relationship to the point that I began taking medication because I didn't understand why I felt so insecure about it all, only to find out later that these feelings I'd been dismissing were completely justified. It's okay to feel the way you feel, and in fact you should be honest and open about it with your partner. If they're not receptive at all to your feelings, it's not the relationship for you. That doesnt however take away from the potential of toxicity in those feelings. It's all about a give and take. Allowing your partner space but understanding your own needs as well.

The internet comment could literally just be: “I liked when you did __. Can we see more of that?“

2 minutes in and you're already not getting the point that the "theory" is that your childhood affects how you view relationships. My wife thinks I'm always mad because her family was always drunk and mad, I assume she's always ignoring me because my parents basically never noticed my for about 20 years. So it checks out with our life experience, you just need to be smarter than the video in question to see the point, it doesn't have to be a 1:1 comparison you dunce.

wtf is wrong with you?

My baby pigeon boyyyy

That channel really feel like "this is what i feel/experience so it must be what everyone feels/experiences" as a basis for every video

Bro I think none of his videos say that every blank is blank they are just giving example and a plausible explanation that makes sense FOR THAT EXAMPLE to a lot of people, you're judging the videos by something they are not

Big joel, I usually love your videos but this was a rancid waste of my time. Could you talk to me about that? Could you explain to me, a random internet person, why the video wasn't a waste of my time. I respect you muchly, and eagerly await your response.

I had the most amazing time last night. Thank you. I love the color of your hair.

I had such a wonderful time watching this video.
Thank you.
I love the colors of your sweater.

Hey Joel! I so keenly and most desperately respect you and can think of nothing but honorable things to say about not only your intellect but your character and wisdom. However, my little booboo brain is confused by all the big words that you say. Could you perhaps usher upon me the profundity of your towering and luminous mind and explain in baby-language what you are talking about in this video?

"...at the age of fourteen and a half"...That seems oddly specific. I'm getting the feeling that something bad happened to him at fourteen and a half. Not too sure how universal that is.

"If we were to judge love by all of the bad things that it may cause and totally ignore all of the good things it causes every day, we would say it's bad."

DEEP

Interesting...you have 7k subscribers v School of Life with over 9 million. Allan De Botton is a respected speaker, successful aurhor many times over, helps millions of people, and a Cambridge and Harvard Educated PhD. And you are....?
You have completely taken his comments about attachment theory out of context and not understood. I would say, if you dont like an channel, just dont watch it perhaps? You are clearly not intelligent, and the nuance and hunour are lost on you. Let's have a look again at the stats....7 million people think you're wrong

I had a phase when I was really into The School of Life, even bought his books and stuff. It did not help me in any way, rather it left me even more confused. I came to the conclusion that it was just his personal philosopher (Alan being a modern philosopher), and it of course, came from his own personal viewpoints and experiences that don't really match mine.

Man’s never been to a board game party and it shows

I'm the most honest version of myself with my partner, because we care about each other and trust each other. I hate this whole thesis of 'friendship good romance fake', a good romance is usually ALSO a close friendship.

Now I know when a group of my friends want to get together on a Friday night for drinks, games, and music, it’s because they’re undermining me

I had a very nice time. Thank you.

These wouldn’t be annoying if they weren’t framed as “school” and instead admitted what they were. “Some thing I thought recently”

These wouldn’t be annoying if they weren’t framed as “school” and instead admitted what they were. “Some thing I thought recently”

“Something I thought about when a relationship was unfulfilling”

“I went to a bad party and thought about this”

“I was sheltered and I’m having issues”

Celebrating is bad. Fun is bad. Dancing is the devil's work. Good god serving spiritual humans stay still and don't move a muscle forever and talk to no one.

It's genuinely sad if you think "vicious insults" is a standard feature of relationships.

I sm puzzled because I generally very much admire you and I don't entirely see the point of what you seem to be doing now. it would be lovely if you could perhaps explain things from your no doubt very legitimate perspective

big joel I usually love your videos but this was a ranccid waste of my time, could you talk to me about that? could you explain to me. a random internet person, why the video WASN'T a waste of my time? I respect you muchly and eagerly await your response

This channel helped me a lot tho