Are you a Sadist or a Masochist - and Why?

Every westener is a masochist

I remember dreaming about being tortured when i was 4... I dont even have a trauma, i had a GREAT childhood, idk what wrong with me

I went through a lot and i have a very rough life since i was a child of 4 and what i have experienced with ppl, family, relatives environment is just unimaginable i have seen the unjust, torture , inequality, instability , abuse , agony .betrayal . yet i am still a good person i lost faith in humanity but i am trying to accept that this is the reality of humans and life.

For some balance, maybe you need healing or you want to heal other people? and why?

This is messed up💀

As a masochist… this sounds about right

Guys, I keep on fearing that I’m sadistic. I have anxiety and OCD because I’ve done some bad stuff in my past someone please reply

I'm a masochist :/

There is abuse is all militaries that we went to. I don't think it effects everyone in the whole system but in districts of all countries and entertainment complexes, it is there.

Masochism. I don't know if you "Need" those people getting abused but maybe you do to get places.

I will phrase it like this because it is in my mind right now and focused. I did things for my friend because he was my friend and teacher. So trusting him when he was concerned about something like doing something for mercy or to learn I would attempt.

He was my friend at the time.

Somethings I excelled in and was good at while it was difficult for others.
Others things I was poor at. I couldn't do masochism to the level of others as my brain and body revolted to a lot of things. So getting requests to go into a poo bath in NK and get with Poo focused girls there were way above me. I did have friends that took hits for me and I looked up to it. I can't do it.

It was a big stressor thing because others were so much more relaxed and calm about it in the face of it in front of me, I didn't know how to learn it and though it might improve with time there but doubted and feared it.

Masochistic doesn't make you a full on Masochist

I've been researching goth girls from childhood cartoons as I was curious as to why the goth fetish was a thing. Something I figured out was all the cartoons have both a masochist and a sadist female character. Starfire and Raven from Teen Titans, Kim Possible and Shego from Kim Possible, Princess Bubblegum and Marceline from Adventure Time, Candace and Vanessa from Phineas and Ferb, Lindsay and Gwen from Total Drama Island, Mai and Ty Lee from Avatar the Last Airbender. What's fascinating is that the authors all understand the psychology behind attraction. I thought Goths were Sadists to begin with but when I did further research what I learned is that they are actually Sado-masochists. They WISH they were sadists but because they get forcibly emotionally dominated by other sadists they become depressed about it and become masochists. The best example is actually from Avatar the Last Airbender with the three fire nation girls, Ty Lee, Mai and Azula. Ty Lee is a masochist who is submissive toward Azula and worships her voluntarily. Azula is a sadist who is dominant toward Ty Lee AND Mai. So what is Mai? Well Mai is in-between both of them. She wants to dominate Azula which is sadistic but because she is too weak she gets dominated by Azula which makes her masochistic. This is why Goths are so depressed and associated with dark colours. They are expressing their anger and depression in being dominated by the other sadist. In short Ty Lee smiles when Azula orders her, Mai shows no emotion to her face but when she is not looking only shows anger toward her or depression about her when Azula orders her. Ordering = dominance. So in short, in a socially competitive environment the winner becomes a sadistic bully, the loser becomes a masochistic servant and the runner up Goth becomes a grieving, angry and depressed rebel to the Sadistic bully. This literally happens throughout Avatar the Last Airbender between Azula, Mai and Ty Lee.

ITS PRONOUNCED AS "MASOKIST?!"

Incorrect. It's a massive generalization for the entire group. Not why all people develop this way. Sorry to burst your bubble. I can honestly say I don't enjoy everyone's suffering or think there are only two roles or any of that nonsense. It's a power play. The houses made and the strength shown while people endure is arousing. Sometimes s3xually, other times intellectually, emotionally, etc. I view masochist as some of the most loyal, honorable, and valuable people on the planet and find them as friends, lovers, etc to be the absolute most understanding. They never cease to amaze or astound in their gentleness and desire to prove themselves. So no. Not everyone is a sadist for the same reason nor do they just commit ridiculous acts of cruelty without reason nor are the acts unjust or unfair. It's a mutual fulfillment for those who want to prove themselves and will go to great lengths to do so and a silent cheerleader wanting to gain fulfillment from the achievement. Physical, mental, or emotional suffering to the degree of martyrdom would show loyalty and love beyond the shallow expressions one sees in the world of normal people. The best relationships are when they trust you enough to take things just as far as needed for them to grow and you grow in self discipline in exchange... and in the situations where you need an outlet and you trust them to provide to degree needed for you to overcome whatever you need to.

So how would satan torture masochist

As a mature human being. You need to have the ability to self reflect. Otherwise you won’t have long lasting relationships and happiness.

When it comes to sexual relationships you need trust and consent.
I am never able to know truly if someone is a masochist and they can’t know i am a sadist until we have been together for a long time.

i used to be a masochist and it’s pretty different from sh. i usually don’t feel the pleasure when i am the one doing it while i do when someone else is doing it

I mean, I laugh at slapstick humor so I think I am a bit of a sadist

"It's better to be at the right hand of the devil than in his path"
"If you can't beat them, join them"

Thank you

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I just learned recently that I'm a masochist, most definitely in the emotional/mental category, quite possibly (probably) in the physical category as well. I thought it was something I was born with, and learning that it came from something is shocking to me. I'm not sure what to do, or what caused it. And because I'm a masochist, I fundamentally don't want to seek help, cause emotional pain brings me joy, so why would I take that away. I only know I should fix it because other people told me so, it's make I learned from media and peers. I'm addicted, and only trying to stop because I'm told to, and doing what I'm told to instead of what I want to once again feed into the high I get from hurting. Hell, even just writing this comment about how bad it is my brain is happy for doing so. I'm really confused, glad I found this video thought. At least I have something to go off of.

Can anyone tell me if I should start a relationship with a sadistic girl?..because I didn't understand the video 😅

Half my class is sadists.. i think im the masochist in my class.. thats not good-

Regina is a sadist

I had to heal to where my sadism is only a fetish. I used to be filled with such bitterness and spite

Yeh it’s wrong

You gots a nice voice macho man

I can't believe you didn't include a caveat that this principle DOES NOT IN ANY WAY apply categorically to all sexual sadism and masochism. Sure, BDSM may often be a way to deal with past trauma, but the Dom may very well just be accommodating the sub, and vice versa, and then learn to love it themselves. Ii may also just be a kink that formed earlier in life for reasons other than being mistreated. I find this overgeneralization surprising and disappointing.

Just stick it to your s3lf ay maybe as fisrt step but that shalow

As sadist my self well im that step stagnating
Self projection yes just have nice day and seek more

What a disgusting world we live in...

What if it's not because of trauma, but some other physiological reason?

This explains when I was being bullied as a kid, I then I would inflict pain on others what broke this cycle was my wedding dress and petticoat fetishism I found comfort in them.

Not totally correct. correct facts but misleading conclusion.

Be that as it may, it is an incomplete explanation. Sadism and masochism are manifestations of the human animal nature in a sick social environment. There is pleasure in dominating for those who have the means to dominate, and there is pleasure in being hurt in those who cannot dominate (as an inverted pleasure to dominate). No? You don’t believe me? Think of the sheer cruelty of the formerly oppressed people who have heads rolling during a so- called ‘revolution’. The cruelest of slave masters are (former) slaves. That’s another reason why one should not torture somebody else; giving the victim lessons in how to be sadistic will serve them well and cause you double the pain you have inflicted, when the tables turn.

Ultimately, the whole idea is to socially- culturally manage the human animal nature and not let it go rampant. Alas, society failed. Disrespect me, and, sooner or later, you will find out whether I am sadistic or not.

I play siege. Ranked. Yall dont know shit about masochism.

Im both smh

W masochism

This doesn't fit for many people with masochistic or sadistic fetishes. I would love it if you would try and make it work.

Masochist but now no more.

God is not able period

Thank you for sharing

This doesn’t need to be true. Some ppl are just cruel for its own sake. Sadist is in the right. This may be true in general but the idea of sadomasochism being a mere reaction to pain is over exaggerated.

We are so weird and fu*ked.

If I am a masochist would I still follow the golden rule loool

i play war thunder 😒

What if someone had all the mental Illnesses? Such as depression, anxiety, schizophrenia and more as well as being both a sadist and masochist and also being an anarchist

Thank you ❤

My girl is a boss. She takes care of her self and even me at times, works 40 hours a week AND her own side hustle.
When a person like this is willing to submit and trust every ounce of themselves to you, it's a different connection that I don't believe can be easily found elsewhere. We know each others demons, we're linked and kinked.
Don't be so quick to judge, ask your man to tie you the bed post and take a mental picture of his reaction lol. Stay safe folks.