I'm dating a narcissist AGAIN! Is it me?

I have learned to repel narcs now. Took a while as I use to be a magnet for them. After the malignant narcissist, I said never again. 10 years later,I now repel them.

Bitch face is one way. Saying NO to every and any seemingly snall "innocent" request was the best way to sieve out the users and possible narcs.

The moment anyone tries to "negociate" or "talk me out" of my first no. I firmly state my NO is not uldate for a discussion or negiciation. My NO to their "request" is enough.

I then walk away from them with my head held high and my energy screaming "F off!".


Once I notice who people are, I keep them at arms length, grey rock and I keep everyone I do not know fully on need to know basis.

Moving in silence helps too.

Isolation is also a military tactic not just narc one. Russia is trying very hard to isolate Ukraine from NATO, to deprive them from support.

Actually l was in a good place in my life. About to begin a great uni degree. I was 19 years old. I was independent, l had goals. But my nasty older sister manipulated me , along with her husband, who is our uncles son. They coerced me into marrying my ex. Who is also a cousin. It took me 26 years , and 4 adult girls later. I broke free. No contact. 3 of my adult daughters have been turned against me. I have been ostracised from family siblings and community. I'm now an ex Muslim. Thank God, l have left this cult. That l was born into. This happened to me in a first world country. You think it wouldn't happen. Unfortunately it still continues.

I do believe that narcissistic people actively seek out and pursue vulnerable targets. It's not random selection.

I'd say it's a lot more than 10%. Maybe 10% are at the far end but there are a lot on the lower/mid spectrum that are very toxic and harmful? There there's the jerk. Only imo 20% of people are really healthy to be around, be that frienda or partners. At least 50% of the population aren't that healthy. You only have to look at elections around the world to see that. That leaves 30% who may be okay if you aren't lucky enough to get that great person in the top 20%. Think of how many people you've known in your life who have been really nice people, it's way less than the difficult ones. Again imo.

Dr Ramini, I would love to talk. I’m an international domestic violence advance and I survived a sociopath. I believe people are absolutely Narc Bait. I know you say anyone can be the target of narcs, but I disagree and have heard the same story from thousands of pretty girls. The narcs don’t want a certain type, but there’s a type they they do want for sure. I’ve heard from men scores the globe too who say the same.

So all Ferrari owners are narcissists? 🙄

Thank you, Dr. Ramani.

Dr Ramani nails it again!!!

Thank you for choosing different than those who survivor blame and shame

This made me feel so proud of myself. Because I've run away after the very first time the dude has treated me badly. I didn't know what narcissism is, but I got very curious about his motivations and his ability to switch his behaviour that quickly. For me it made no sense to pretend for months that you like someone, and than treat them so badly out of nowhere. So now I'm here, and I've educated myself on the topic. And, most importantly, I stopped blaming myself for not predicting this turn of events and not seeing a monster in him.

I just moved next door to a narcissistic neighbour
I got a narcissistic manager
I Feb up with meeting thesr people
Their leaving me with nothing
Is scary
I had a narcissistic mother and sister
But I keep meaning these people
Why lol 😆

I’m the common denominator. I’ve just backed oot the noo. I cannae trust anybody…. Including myself.

There has to be something about me. Had a break up today. One toxic relationship after another. And every time, it's "Im unlovable. Something is wrong with me." I really don't want to try this ever again.

it's because if we are already conditioned/ trained to tolerate what comes with the narcissistic abuse, then the narcissists just wind up with us. As we become aware, we may need to distance ourselves from their meddle in order to fully find ourselves enjoying life again.

narcissists will go where they can get supply.. if we would set healthy boundaries for ourselves and uphold said boundaries, then narcissists would not exactly like us.. it actually repels them and they go to the people that tolerate their methods.. if we had narcissistic caregivers and other elders or people abusing their position over us, then the patterns feel familiar enough that we tolerate it to continue escalating. Sometimes the best thing we can do is to walk away. Oh you want to drive a truck over me.. that sounds great, maybe another time though 😅😭☠️

47% of people are exposed to narcissism-inducing levels of lead.

3 in a row 🙄

I see some people getting their own victim supply out of being in toxic relationships. Ignoring all friends and family advise to get out but still bragging about everything they endure. They know it's wrong or else they wouldn't make a big scene about it. Those are the ones I judge

I believe narcissism is prevalent in our society nowadays, it must be way over 50%. I'm not sure why the research says 10%, seems way too low.

A tree can be made to grow sideways if is bent slowly and deliberately enough. Anyone can be drawn in - unless they are one themselves.

What happened to people just asking each other , how are you doing today? Rather than telling us what we look like. Can you talk about these types ? 🫶🏽

Again. My boss women HR manager with narcisstistic traits. Why why again. New job. Good company. Interesting role. And again 😢

What do you make of that alienated children are more likely to become alienated parents ?

Since narcissists use smear campaigns so often, isn't it safer to not get into a relationship with one? Cause getting out can be life-ruining.

You just described my life .

Thank you Dr. Armani🫶🏻

So true! Second husband looked totally different and behaved differently but his attention to me (even sexual) fade away right after our marriage. That was strange, kinda wasn't it to fast to fade away? And yes, these relationships started very fast, very shortly we moved to live together. And yes, red flags started right after we moved together but I didn't want to give up and step back.

I feel as though this one was covert.....

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thank you for making this video. the vast majority of my narcissistic trauma has been from being groomed by narcissistic men. i often feel your videos cover narcissism too broadly for me and others who have largely experienced narcissism on a chosen-relationship basis.

for me it keeps happening because I’m an attractive late-diagnosed autistic woman. i have always been swept up by the love bombing because i’ve always been incredibly trusting and desperately in need of acceptance from someone after being socially ostracized for my autistic mannerisms. i thoroughly believe autistic people have the highest rates of repeated narcissistic abuse.

for those of us with ptsd from narc abuse, how do you recommend handling that “oh shit” moment when we realize we’ve gotten roped into yet another narcissistic situation?

i’ve noticed that on my healing journey, each time i have the “oh shit” moment and realize i’m being exploited by a narc, my nervous system goes into overdrive. this can’t be healthy!!

grappling with decision making at this juncture is excruciating. how do i quiet quit this relationship without them realizing they’re “found out” and going on a smear campaign, especially when we have mutual friends?

in my personal opinion, ghosting the entire group of people before the narcissist can spin a narrative and turn them into flying monkeys is the safest option. it means losing everyone and starting all over, but if not now, it would be later, and it would be a lot more painful because of all of the gaslighting and triangulation.

Every friend I ever had was a Narcissist. It was like each friend had a piece of my mother in them. Now, I have no friends, which is sad. 😢

The point is that this vulnerability start when you where young in the family. So that environment was your normal and you missed honest love. But finding that you attacked to people who are the same as your family. I have been there for almost 57 years. Then I was lucky, first the brain stopped working and started at 0 and for almost a year the past was not available, second to be become functional again I used Internet and found this subject. With these two things I learned a lot and became stronger and able to recognise these evil creatures and don’t spend energy in their needs anymore

yes, twice - then I learned my lesson: the only common thing in them was me. I take total resposibility of my choices, staying, waiting..hoping. Had to think why? Found the answers in my abusive childhood.

You don't attract narcissists. You accept them.

All of mine were 😢

How many traits does a narcissist have?

Thank you for this it means so much for me because I just couldn’t find my accountability anywhere.. thank you thank you I say everybody study all the different types of narcissists, that is what will repel them.

I made it to a year... Yes, my narcissist is still calling, but his blocked.

I am grateful for this video. It's for me. I have dated 4 narcissistic men over 27 years. My father was also a narcissist. It's 2.5 yrs since my last relationship and I am looking back to my childhood and also the relationships to fix the problem. My dad's behaviour made me tolerate toxic behaviour in men I dated - raging, blaming me, playing the victim, being controlling and you name it. All forms of abuse. Plus my mother felt sorry for my father. Cue me behaving the same way. I have grown into a deeply empathetic person with decades of narcissistic abuse. Oddly tho I have also had an amazing career so far working on my passion, which no narcissist could destroy. I am determined never to be in such a relationship again. Wish me luck! ❤

I agree with the one year, however, listen to this content or something similar. I did 1-3 year break, but didn’t have this type of information. Entered right into another narcissistic relationship. Thank God for all that you do because I know now.

Thank you.

Thank you. Not to exaggerate the importance of true validation, the relief of having you make sense of my childhood and adult partner choices is like being absolved by a priest.
I’ll keep working on not copying their behavior and forgiving myself for not leaving sooner.

You attract what and who you are. Terrible advice. Coddling is why American society is crumbling

With so many reporting the behaviors in personal relationships, and seeing the politicians, entertainers, business folks, etc. it makes me wonder about the issue being only 10% population

It took a long time and a lot of work on myself to finally get it. I see it very fast on people now. And as soon as it shows itself, the best policy is to kindly let them know to get the f**k out and don't come back. It is more complicated with family. But with friends and romantic partners, 100% get the f**k out and don't come back.

I think it can also just be personality traits you find attractive. For example I am attracted to men who are intelligent, funny, almost a bit cocky, class clown, confident, charming and a lot of narcs i think have these traits. I think i am attracted to these traits because my dad is like this and left when i was small so daddy issues making me look for someone like him to give me the love he didnt. I suspect my dad was a narc.