Overcoming the Fear of Being Seen: Healing from Shame, Micromanagement, and Harsh Punishment

Relate a lot

Please do more vids on this. I thought it was just me

Yes thank you ❤

The title says “overcoming the fear of being seen”…so what do I do about it?

Nah I'm just autistic

A way that this really manifested in me was the way I would dress. I'm always trying to wear very baggy clothing in dark solid colors

Because most of the books are self help or astrology😩😭 I don’t need them knowing what I’m lacking and am trying to now learn. Mind ur business and when I pop out as the ✨new me✨just be impressed lol

Ahh with roommates it's the worst!! You go to the kitchen and someone is already doing something in there, doesn't even have to be cooking and I will just turn right back around accepting I won't eat for a couple more hours

all these are quite true... all day alone doesnt help whe. peeps return n i need space lol

Yep, last time a guy asked me if I had any fun plans this weekend, I said, “no my life is pretty boring like yours.” That shut him up real fast! 😂
I finally realized why people ask that question. It’s because they are bored. It’s such an annoying question, and you don’t hear it much anymore because life is stressful. We are too busy just trying to survive than to have any fun.

Yep, the last time a guy asked me, “any fun plans this weekend.” I responded with, “no, my life is boring like yours.” That shut him up real fast! 😂
I finally realized why they ask that question. It’s because they have nothing else to talk about.
This question used to really bother me when I was younger, but not anymore. I don’t even hear this question much anymore.
We are just all trying to survive.
No one over the age of 18 is having fun anymore.

How do i fix this?

The co-worker ride thing also invades our alone time and fills it with small talk. To me it's awful unless you are extremely cool with whoever it is.

I have been like this my whole life. Its validating to see stuff like this.

Each interaction is another chance to ruin a relationship forever

I thought this was normal, lol maybe not! i do have an extreme aversion of beings seen and perceived by other, i wished i was invisible so many times

Spot on! 💯 I feel...erm... seen...

A autistic person are showing that pattern and sometimes are that undiagnosed.
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Reflecting on this in my life looks like the need and yearn for someone to see me in my vulnerable state and inviting them in then and once they are there I am uncomfortable and dry and want them to leave 😅 then it feels like a let down and an internal shame party for not being what I feel inside on my own with another person

Thank you — I’ve really been realizing this as my newest personal glass ceiling that is hindering me in so many ways. These fear of being seen videos are so insightful.

Hehe. 😂 I always jump when my coworker walks in the tool trailer. Hate letting him in my truck, and always turn my music down. I'll turn myself into a pretzel before I feel like I'm in the way. 😂

Small talk is the worst, GO AWAY!

It's kind of comforting to know I'm not as alone with those issues as I thought I were.

Throughout school, I've never went to the bathroom there once out of fear that it'd put unwanted attention on me ... somehow. I remember coming home from elementary school crying from the pain of holding in pee for hours while not showing that I was in pain because... well, attention. Later on I'd just don't drink anything for the whole school day.

Having to sneeze in public was dreadful.

Once a very nice coworker noted that - while she appreciates that I move out of the way for other people - I don't have to jump out of the way everytime someone needs something in my vicinity.

taking my trash from the restaurant instead of leaving it for the wait staff to clear away...

Yup

This must be why hosting makes me sick.!

Haha I can see myself lol

My life in a yt short

Yes, this! All of this! 😅😅

This is all true but only half the time for me. The other 50% is just me not wanting to be bothered by anyone because I do enjoy having all my "things" to myself on my alone time, lol

You are a gem. This is me described 100%.

Oh its fear of being seen. I just thought I was a lunatic

Anorexic...I was starved recently so now very ill. Kitchens are nightmare fuel. I have a bmi of 15.3. Gonna take a kilo or so off. Was not allowed eat with low blood pressure with carer and assaulted for trying to get food. Im severely depressed now. It will take a long time to get over what she did as ive dangerously low blood pressure if I fail to eat. Now I refuse to eat after exercise. I'm looking for counsellor as ill probably not be ok for that long. The woman was evil.

Omg

or even sharing plans or things is one

I have all this but I'm no longer afraid to be seen. Upon realizing that i don't like how the world at large approaches/treats me, I suddenly became extremely antisocial. When I'm alone, I'm in love and life is beautiful. When someone (i don't know) approaches me, I leave with no words and not a second thought. I don't even look at other people anymore. I hate being talked to by people who seem to only see their gross fantasies so why would i even bother? I'm already married so I'm happy to never talk to anyone new tbh

This is SO me!!!! I found myself laughing while watching this!!!! WOW!! 🤯😂

The need to be seen is also a wound, probably more common in todays society

me.

I feel seen. 😵‍💫

As women we often have to contend with a constant inner voyeur. Its so fucked, wanting to be seen and being afraid to be seen at the same time. Wanting to be known but afraid of being known and mistreated.

what can we do to heal that? it relly makes my life a hell...

Yikes! This is me- in EVERY.SINGLE.SCENARIO!

😂😂

You deserve so much recognition.

😢😢😢😢😢 i need tools on this. Do you have a complete video ? been seen was been having the chance to get hit by my parents. 😢 try to exist as a therapist 😢😢contradictory

Thiiiiiiiisssss I remember panicking at one of my first experiences going to a holiday dinner and sitting with people I knew and my bosses husband asked me something and I don’t even remember what I just remember not even knowing how to get out of the conversation and just shut down within myself and their faces were of shock like did she really just refuse a conversation at the dinner table. I rarely have anyone over in my home bc I’m usually ashamed of it 😢 but a lot of my energy supply goes towards making it less shameful I just was raised in a way that made it a huge challenge to keep it maintained

Can also be autism which is underdiagnosed in women.

So what would cause someone to have a fear of being seen?

LOL. Good acting. Laughing at myself really, I recognise everything you did there!