Rabbi Shimon Russell & YY Jacobson: How Do I Help Struggling Children? How Do I Create Attachment?

How do you remain supportive and loving if your child is engaged in something you know is a self destructive behavior? For example, a child is dating and talking about marrying a gentile woman and you know that if that happens and if you in any way support that behavior you are de facto supporting your child in destroying his progeny eternally. If a parent goes along with that and humors the child and children are brought into the world, they will not be Jewish and the descendants will be cut off from Yiddishkeit. What does a parent do in that sort of situation? How do they remain close to their child and keep a strong healthy relationship with said child, but at the same time don't allow the child to destroy his future. How does a parent negotiate a situation that will rip the family apart forever?

Love this so much and I'm a gentile, I think 😊 Thank you for this teaching. WOW!!!

Thanks!

Why can't you understand the concept that not everyone leaves because of the lack of love.. Some people just don't believe this religion is true, or that any religion is true.. Jews laugh at Muslims, Muslims laugh at jews.. Same with every other religion. The ONLY reason YY Jacobson believes in Judaism is because he was born into it.. The ONLY reason he's a lubavitcher is because he was born into it.. So yes, get the concept, some people don't believe whatever they are taught and hence leave the religion.. This has nothing to do how much love and acceptance u show..
Besides the fact that according to the Jewish religion, a parent HAS TO hit their kids that don't obey, in fact a dad that hit his kid and killed him, is patur because he did a mitzva.. So vus dreiste in cheinik..
Say it the way it is.. Kesher Nafshi is here to make parents feel better about themselves.. Keep it simple

Took a few days to listen through, but this was a very captivating and help interview.

Incredible, every word is gold! Specially the hope for vulnerability and authenticity! And every emotion Rabbi Russel showed and how rabbi Jacobson reaffirmed his words and emotional beautiful

They hate religion because they are brainwashed by a corrupt school system creating a dual system of astronomy heliocentric lie to remove god out of the picture

This is such a refreshing discussion. Sadly the Frum world has little use for individuality and free thinkers. Homogenization has become the singular driving value in much of the Frum world and free thinkers are seen as trouble makers. Yet, the reason why this is so problematic is because the Giants of the Tanach are our fundamental teachers of Jewish values because of how they were not afraid to think for themselves.

Thank you R Shimon and R YY.
This conversation is GOLD

Children hate religion because you have shown them how racist and xenophobic religion can be, starting by Jewdaism.

So much love and so much humanity in this convo. I love the empathetic approach and profound love going through the podcast at every sentence.
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This was amazing. Thank you so much for having this discussion and sharing this.

Wow one of the powerful Jewish & parenting discussion I've ever heard. Thank you so much. Life changing wisdom for us Jewish parents journeying this life.

Wow, this video must go viral!

Possibly one of the must important things that the public must hear and take action in! Thank you for your time and effort in putting this together! Pls make more of this 😊

Wow, just wow.

Thank you Rabbi YY & R Shimon. This conversation should be made compulsory for ALL mechanchim to listen to.

How is it when I am listening to this great discussion, an ad about Gaza & it's destruction is aired??? Anyone else had that?

I love Rabbi Russel's accent, and wow what a humble, honest, mench, very rare traits found in people today

Oh my gosh i have failed dismally as a parent, its a lot too late 😢😢 Rabbi Shimon you are the wisest man wow

Thank you Rabbi YY

Thank you Rabbi Shimon dont ever let people tell you, who are you to talk, cause its your very own experiences that qualifies you to lecture on the subject, experience is almost a Master degree. ❤

You two Rabbis are 100

You are such a wise man Rabbi Shimon, respect, respect thank you for sharing your knowledge i completely get you

I have not heard anyone in my world speak like Rabbi Shimon, i cannot believe what im hearing, you hit the nail on the head over and over and over again.

Emotional neglect, now i know where i went wrong, so where do i go from here😢

The answer to the child who says, “there is nothing to eat in this house,” is to answer him/her in a loving voice and say is what would you like to eat, maybe I can make something for you.” Focus on the child, not on yourself.

I once heard someone say , which I thought was very wise , “ What children, especially “ adult children “ need to realize, yes their parents are guilty of not parenting correctly, but they are not to be blamed “. From the parents viewpoint ,based on their background , dealing with what all they had to deal with , they did the best they knew how or could. It is a two way street.

I really enjoy the conversation but it’s impossible to listen to Rabbi Jacobson’s constant Snorting!!! Rabbi, see a doctor for God’s sake!!

Wow. “Every problem started as a solution.” Yes, our children adapt their behavior to how they view their environment to get for themselves what they need.

This is so incredibly powerful. I’m on my second listening so far. I’ll be listening at least once more.

Wonderful and very insightful

יישר כח🌸