Easiest explanation of a Boundary in Relationships

My ex says that I've crossed a boundary if I ask when he'll start to pay back the fifteen grand I lent him a few years ago.
Gotta love when people weaponise boundaries

Me honoring me. Sounds so easy...😢❤

I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that you explain boundaries. So many people just say "set boundaries" but never tell you HOW or even what a boundary is. Or worse yet they just say "you have no boundaries" when you don't even know what that means!! Much gratitude for your work

Thiiiiiiisssss!!! 💯

Oh, he would let me leave, then he'd follow me out to the car and as I'm getting into the car, slam it forcefully with both hands, as I'm trying to get my hands and feet out of the way of the slamming door. Divorced for 40 years, after 10 years of putting up with emotional and verbal abuse, and yet, he's the one that can't be in the same room because I'm the bad person.

I needed this. Thank you again, Jimmy. I've been around narcissists too long.

If somebody calls me names, I’m not leaving for an hour I’m leaving forever because there are plenty of respectful men out there. No need to deal with disrespect.

How can I set boundaries after 30+ years? Is it even possible ?

How can I set boundaries after 30+ years? Is it even possible ?

I tired that with my ex but he would continue to msg me nonstop. He didn't understand boundaries... Hence, we aren't together anymore.

Ummm, you are assuming they let you leave..... IMHE, the rant last for HOURS

But most of the time if they started name calling you then the rage starts and you dont even get a chance to open your mouth and dare to say something cause things will turn uglier with narcs...😢
If they are not narcs and begining of a relationship maybe achievable...😢

I wish I knew that last bit 12 years ago. Glad I eventually got out of that one!

hearing a man speak so calmly and gently and saying “that is abuse and it’s against the law” is just so emotional for me. thank you for doing this.

Yes. I did that. It reminded them that we need to respect it each other.

The police have told us that it's her word against his. We have to give them evidence. There is a child involved and the police have said if we don't give them evidence and she leaves with her 8 year old; he can take her and there's nothing she can do.

We're looking at spy cameras but he works from home and only leaves the house occasionally. Spy cameras probably need recharging

Thank you for this. Abuse is so normalized in our society. This explanation is absolutely critical and necessary.

I didnt know there were laws against that. When I was with my last boyfriend, I remember one time he came at me with a loud angry voice or started to call me names and so I just turned around and started to walk to the back room to avoid him and then he ran around me and blocked me from walking to the back and he told me no and that I had to listen to him and then I preceeded to tell him, "it is not good for you to talk to me when you are in this state" and he still said no and then he said no because he wanted me to leave the house and not go to the back room. I then felt so sad.

I think this is great; would see it as a standard, but I'd rather defer to you on that... Could you PLLLZZZZ do a video on Standards vs Boundaries?!?

YES YES YES 🙏🏻

It took me a lifetime to learn to set boundaries, being raised by narcissistic parents and having married one (now ex 👍🏻) IT'S NEVER TOO LATE 🙋🏼‍♀️

Thank you Jimmy, your channel is an eye and heart-opener and you teach healthy relationships that school won’t teach!

Well what about when they use stonewalling and call it boundaries and just leave regardless of what or how it's said

Thanks 🙏🏻 👍🏻

Iol. Ok can you please explain though what if you are both driving and it’s somewhere pretty long drive…

pirceless advice of how-to-live-guideline

But now if you leave you don't know the other shit they potentially say behind your back. If you stay, now you learn and you can build up your walls and toughness

What if you feel their unsupportive but boy out right abusive? Can I still step away?

What if you feel their unsupportive but boy out right abusive? Can I still step away?

The difference is He threw me out instead of walking away

I would not give chances. It's over!

Great advice!! Also, Blue eyes, blue shirt 👍🏼

Why does "I deserve kindness and respect" sound like an arrogant and egotistical thing a narcissist would say 😂

Great plants in the house. Haha

Love you ❤

Back in the day there used to be social conventions to enforce behavior but that wasn't good enough for jack wagon therapists and "relationship experts" so now we have the vastly inferior system of "boundaries". Due to that change it is now much better for an individual's well being to avoid relationships all together.

Does this work?

I have been called stupid a couple of times by different people. They are all dead now.

Happens when the name calling persists and is a pattern of behavior despite appeals to stop? Also when there is no remorse but justification of it

I’m still struggling understanding the concept of boundaries when it comes to physical touch. Two of my previous partners have used it as a way to set rules with me about when I could give PDA. Is that the same thing?

seems like boundaries and being controlling is open to interpretation. forcing them not to call you names to spend time with you. is that controlling? You are essentially forcing a behaviour change. obviously name calling is wrong. I just make the point that one side may see a boundary when the other sees controlling behaviour.

It's so hard to keep the boundaries going once I've set them up. It's like I need a poster on my fridge!

Facts

No, then you tell them to go threaten the military and their family. And then you run away laughing.he he he he he😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I really get a lot out of your videos . Thank you
I can't help but notice that you have lost a ton of weight . Are you ok 🥺

We deserve kindness and respect even during a conflict! 💖

Whenever he says “I deserve” and follows it up with some sort of respect someone owes you, this is the antithesis of Christianity which compels us to deny ourselves, and think more highly of others than of ourselves. II Timothy 3:2 for men will be lovers of themSELVES. If you’re a Christian, you believe you deserve death and hell for your sins. Claiming to deserve anything more than that amounts to pride.

You’re the first person that’s ever talked about how there’s usually a conflict first and then a boundary is set. Interesting.

I deserve kindness and respect.❤

"me honouring me".
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