What are The Effects of Emotional Abuse ? | Dr. David Hawkins

This is my life … but I have no money to go on my own and I’m 70 years old …..

Thank you for this video. This is exactly what has happened to me in my marriage 😢

It has taken me some time to understand why and how I stayed with my husband for 19,5 years. Now I see, what I have been seeing with my parents for years and years, so without realizing it, I was doing the same as my mom 😢

Thank You!!

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I need to set boundaries against emotional abuse while I am in toxic relationships. I have already lost so many emotions, which lead to my masturbation addiction.

Thank you, Dr David, for you wisdom.

100% hit nail on the head. Makes perfect sense.

I always compared the abuses to tiny hammers chipping away at my soul.

Thank you 🙏 This is so very helpful and enlightening 💜

This is INCREDIBLE! THANK YOU Dr Hawkins for such a clear teaching & explanation! This is GOLD!!

HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!

I am asking myself now what is a healthy relationship.....Thank you.....

Dr. Hawkins...U are brilliant....I have been TRYING so hard to get this across to my HUSBAND for YEARS NOW. Im FINALLY at the acceptance stage that he WILL NOT change. He LAUGHS when I tell him he emotionally abuses me (which is what my OWN MOM did to me my entire childhood :( Boy, have I learned Alot about myself
this past year ( along with a lot of tears). Im going to play this for him tonight & im even going to look into your counceling as he promises me he WANTS to STAY MARRIED & will go to counceling. He is the PERFECT COVERT NARCISSIST & has been getting much worse with age. I feel completely TRICKED & bamboozled into MARRYING HIM 23 YRS AGO (28 total) believing he was ALWAYS going to be the BEST HUSBAND he could be , to ME. Its UNBELIEVABLE to me how people can HIDE their TRUE SELVES for YEARS. I never in my life thought I would cry so many tears because of HIM. I KNOW that its NOT ME. Ive always been a very insightful person who can see my faults, ADMIT THEM ,& FIX THEM to the best of my ability. I have been the BEST WIFE to this man & he ADMITS THIS!!! I WISH I could GIVE HIM BACK the PAIN he's given ME but I'm not that kind of person. Im a loving soul who's only ever wanted to feel LOVED, honored & RESPECTED in my life...I certainly don't FEEL that from HIM & he can't UNDERSTAND WHY! I REFUSE TO ALLOW HIM TO CONTINUE TREATING ME THIS WAY...my life would be PERFECT if he would finally GET IT! How can u say you love someone every day yet have no problem hurting them? U aren't suppose to hurt the ones you love & cherish... I think the only thing that will make him change is having another man MAKE HIM TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR HIS ACTIONS towards me. and, TELL HIM HE IS NOT A GOOD HUSBAND & that I SHOULD LEAVE HIM!! Life is too precious & important to waste it on this BS!!
THANK U for sharing all your incredible knowledge with others . You and Dr. Clark (isnt it ironic that my husband name is CLARK) are the ones who confirmed that I HAVE BEEN emotionally abused by my husband (I had mentioned I felt this way b4 but never looked into it). Dr. Clark even called these people EVIL & that SAME thought had gone thru my mind several times also! Im also so grateful that u give us a place to vent our feelings. Ive always stuffed them which is why I've had so many health probs my entire life. Ill make sure to let u know how your video affected him.
Your a wonderful man & a HERO to humanity❤🙏

Everything you described in the first 3 minutes is how my husband felt, but he never voiced it.

When I told him I was sorry and never meant to hurt him ever. I was making decisions that I thought would keep him from being burdened or keep him from having to deal with my son that had issues from previous marriage. So when I learned this… he had been carry this for a very long time and drifting away and I didn’t know why.

Now for months over a year no talking, isolation. No intamacy etc. help

Thank You 🙏🏻
Very helpful 🙏🏻

Burdens in life will occur...period, but that pack of pebbles and huge stones make us stronger in the long run, though at times we feel we will break under the weight at various times. We can eventually look back and see all the good that has occurred in our life that never would have occurred had those pebbles never occurred.

Ty! ❤ i am making my plans because i need to heal.

Hi Dr David Hawkins, thank you for this video! I wonder if the impact can be too much for someone that there is no point of return for the relationship to be where it used to be?

It’s like you went it to my brain and articulated everything I’m going through right now. Currently trying to end it. He’s dragging it out half heartedly saying let’s just stop fighting but not actually listening to my needs and concerns re his behaviour.
Thank you reinforcing my belief that this is toxic situation.😢

Again today..anger. threats. He knows what ive been through.cancer treatment all year..family estrangment over my mothers will for years. Im alone..afraid.i never know what word.gesture or tone will set him off. Anger .vicious words.blame.and threats of leaving..etc.
I used to be Strong now i am afraid..my insides in turmoil most the time..99% of the time its just simply unfair..he feels mean and i feel its about being made to feel Worthless my emotional destruction is the point.

Thank u so much

I am going through this right now

Thank you for your understanding words, Dr Hawkins! The analogy of the pebbles in the backpack is so perfect!
I used to feel like I was always trying to run with a parachute attached to my back: the more I would try the more it would just inflate: it became a lost cause over the years, very exhausting.

Every word you said is hope for my soul. I wish I lived where you are and could attend a group. Have your thought about branching out and having a marriage recovery center and emotional abuse institute location in Utah? I have suffered for 30 long years. I have a pack full of pebbles and desire to release and heal so I can regain what health emotionally and physically I can possibly restore. I just want to be held by someone who truly loves me and I can safely love back. I was hoping to experience that in this life. Dr. Hawkins you are a human angel. I am so grateful to think that I can have a safe joy filled life after so much emotional abuse and neglect.

This my situation between me and my mother
62 & 84

My sister and father are both this way they love being emotionally abusive .It's causes my depression ,anxiety , diabetes ,insomnia she says she don't care she means it .

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I have been living for years with family treating like this ! I'm mentally and fiscally

worn out!

Isn't your description the age old adage, death by a thousand cuts. That was certainly my experience in a marriage that lasted 42 years. If i could collect compound interest on those pebbles .....